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Bondage is one of the most popular activities in the BDSM world, and has seen such a steep increase in popularity that the products now offer a far wider assortment than traditionally available.From restraints and handcuffs to whips and paddles, your bondage collection includes a multitude of dominance and submission pieces - with the most popular being the art of restraint.

Physical Restraints

With restraining being the most traditional form of bondage and discipline, the easiest way to restrain someone is to use restraints, cuffs & ties.While they do have their place in a Naughty Cop roleplay, we advise against using actual handcuffs, as they can easily hurt the wearer in not-so-sexy ways. The best cuffs are the soft-lined leather or faux leather cuffs, or even neoprene cuffs. These are usually joined by detachable chains or cords.


Bed restraint kits are very handy, as they have cords designed to fit under your mattress with cuffs extending out at four corners for wrists and ankles. They’re adjustable for all bed sizes (and person sizes) and can provide a real sense of full restraint without too much fuss.


If you’re interested in Shibari – the Japanese art of rope bondage – you’ll find plenty of information about it on the internet. You might even be lucky enough to find a local class if you live in a big city. Shibari has even made its way into the fashion world, with dresses adorned with diamonds and criss-crosses of elegant coloured rope. The best rope to use for Shibari is simple cotton sash cord (easily available at your local hardware store) or treated jute or hemp rope. Remember to get yourself a decent pair of safety shears if you’re planning to tie your partner up, just in case you need to cut them loose in a hurry. You don’t need a lot of knowledge to do some basic restraint ties with rope – just find a decent tutorial on YouTube and watch carefully. But don’t try complicated things like suspending your partner from the ceiling, as this can really be asking for trouble.


Whips and Paddles

If you visit a BDSM party, you’ll hear a lot of talk about impact play. This is basically when someone is smacked with an implement, whether it’s a hand (and who doesn’t like a little spanking from time to time?), cane, whip or paddle.


Paddles are great if you’re just getting started or are interested in more vanilla sex. They make a good whacking noise, and can feel quite heavy on the receiving end, but they’re unlikely to do any damage and are easy to hit accurately with.


Whips and crops can be a little more tricky, and you need to be careful not to hit in danger spots like the stomach or lower back. They can hurt quite a lot – it’s a stingy sort of pain – and leave bruises, so start gently and always consider the receiver. They’re still easier to manage and less likely to do major damage than canes or bigger whips can.


Remember, with all kinky play it’s important to have a safe word and to respect what your partner needs. If the play isn’t working for them, you must stop. Safe words are usually different to ‘no’ because in some kinds of kinky play a partner might want to be able to say ‘No’, ‘Don’t’ or ‘Stop’ as part of a role-play, without having you actually stop. So you want to choose a safe word that they can use only if they actually really want you to stop.


Nipple Clamps

Nipple play is an exciting part of sensory bondage play. Nipple clamps are applied to the nipples to cut off blood flow to that area. When they are removed, blood flow returns and the sensitivity of the nipples is greatly heightened. Depending on the tightness of the clamps, they may be fairly comfortable to wear or increasingly painful. Some nipple clamps are joined by a chain which may be decorative and also handy for a partner to tug on to increase sensation. For beginners, adjustable clamps or tweezer clamps are the easiest to work with. Clover Clamps have a mechanism that makes them particularly tight, and they are often the clamp of choice for sado-masochistic play.


Be aware, when removing nipple clamps, that the wearer may experience sharp pain. Make sure to take the clamps off quickly and not have them slip and clamp down again.


Masks

Masks & blindfolds used in BDSM play are not the frilly masks intended to conceal the wearer’s identity, however often those might appear on the covers of erotic novels. They are more like sleep masks, or blindfolds, intended to block the wearer’s sight. He or she is then more aware of sensation, as their dominant partner teases them with ticklers, toys, or whips. For some people, this is a highly erotic experience, while for others it’s a bit more scary. Either way, you can play with the feelings to create an intense sensual experience.


Ticklers

Ticklers are usually made of a bunch of light feathers at the end of a stick, and can be used to tease and titillate your partner’s body. These sex toyss are popular in kinky sensation play, especially if the receiving partner is masked or blindfolded. Light, quick touch or dragging the feathers along an erogenous zone may have different responses. Take your time and enjoy exploring how your partner enjoys the sensations.


Strap-On Harnesses

Strap-on harnesses allow a person to wear the dildo of their choice in order to penetrate a partner via strap on sex. Pegging, in which a woman penetrates her male partner anally, can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable experience for both partners.


The harness has an o-shaped ring at the front, through which the dildo is inserted, pointing outward. The harness is then strapped around the wearer’s hips and upper thighs and adjusted for best fit. Some harnesses have a pocket type space behind the o-ring which can hold a bullet vibrator against the clitoris of the wearer.


You can also find some harnesses designed for men to wear so that they can use a dildo and the penis for double penetration of a female partner’s vagina and anus. These are a bit harder to find.


Whatever your preference, bondage within the bdsm community relates specifically to the feeling of the temporary transfer of control and power and the ability to gain pleasure from the restrained partner’s submission. Many couples incorporate bondage into their sex lives, whether it be through the form of a sex game or a sexual fantasy enactment.


Remember, bondage is safer when conducted between trusted partners who respect each other’s boundaries and fully understand the risks involved and precautions necessary to ensure informed consent and safety. Your BDSM activities should never cause you any harm, pain, or excessive discomfort and any sexual act should be considered consensual.


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    Svakom
    CON S99
    R2,899
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      Steamy Shades
      BO DP 4041937579098
      R549
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        Steamy Shades
        BO DP 4041937579142
        R1,199
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          Bondage Kit - Steamy Shades

          Steamy Shades
          BO DP 4041937579210
          R2,699
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            Positioning Set - Steamy Shades

            Steamy Shades
            BO DP 4041937579227
            R2,599
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              Steamy Shades
              BO DP 4041937579203
              R2,499
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                Over the Door Sex Swing for Couples - Steamy Shades

                Steamy Shades
                BO DP 4041937579111
                R1,149
                Turn any room of the house into your playground with the Steamy Shades door swing. Secure the barbell over the top of the door and shut the door to keep it in place. The door swing features an elegant black lace overlay on lustrous satin grey fabric. Sturdy enough to support adults to experience a variety of new sex positions.
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                  Steamy Shades
                  BO DP 4041937579319
                  R799
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                    R329
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                      Steamy Shades
                      BO DP 4041937579050
                      R708
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                        Steamy Shades
                        BO DP 4041937579128
                        R999
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                          Lace Hood - Steamy Shades

                          Steamy Shades
                          BO DP 4041937579036
                          R399
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                            Luxury Lace Overlay Paddle - Steamy Shades

                            Steamy Shades
                            BO DP 4041937579326
                            R699
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                              Endurance Butterfly Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades

                              Steamy Shades
                              BO DP 4041937579166
                              R399
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                                Adjustable Tweezer Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades

                                Steamy Shades
                                BO DP 4041937579357
                                R449
                                These gorgeous tweezer nipple clamps by Steamy Shades are perfect for beginners looking to add some sensory play.Fully adjustable, these nipple clamps allow your partner to slide the rings to regulate the pain stimulus. From a light sensory tug to a firm purposeful pinch, the tweezer clamps allow absolute precision and pressure. Coated at the tips, the...
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                                  Steamy Shades
                                  BO DP 4041937579241
                                  R499
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                                    Steamy Shades
                                    BO DP 4041937579333
                                    R479
                                    These gorgeous feather detailed nipple clamps by Steamy Shades are a 2-in-1 designed feather tickler and nipple clamps duo. With rubber coated tips, these fully adjustable nipple clamps are adjusted via the screw mechanism that enables you to take the pinch from varying degrees of pain and pleasure. With the feathers situated underneath, you gain the...
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                                      Under the Bed Ties - Steamy Shades

                                      Steamy Shades
                                      BO DP 4041937579104
                                      R1,199
                                      These Under the Bed ties by Steamy Shades fit any bed and tuck underneath your mattress for full body restraint.Adjusting to fit any bed easily, these ties have a strap to the center that connect the restraints and a D-ring for effortless setup. With satin ties that feature a delicate printed overlay, these restraints are comfortable to wear, soft to the...
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                                        Wrist to Ankle Cuffs - Steamy Shades

                                        Steamy Shades
                                        BO DP 041937579067
                                        R899
                                        The Wrist to Ankle cuffs by Steamy Shades are a unique set of adjustable cuffs that allow you to position your partner into a multitude of positions including the HogTie.In a gorgeous black and grey design, these cuffs feature a secure hook and loop velcro closure. Simply attach them securely to the wrists, adjust the velcro strap as tight or as loose as...
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                                          Neck and Wristraint - Steamy Shades

                                          Steamy Shades
                                          BO DP 4041937579081
                                          R969
                                          This dual set by Steamy Shade features wrist restraints as well as a neck restraint for the ultimate bondage experience. With a neck restraint that keeps your wrists and neck secure during play, this piece will not only take your bondage experience up a notch, but is also incredibly erotic thanks to it's metal rings and luxuriously lace finished cuffs. It...
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                                            Satin Tie Bar Gag - Steamy Shades

                                            Steamy Shades
                                            BO DP 4041937579135
                                            R699
                                            The satin tie bar gag by Steamy Shades is a different take to that of the traditional ball gag.Designed using satin ties on the side, and a supple bar gag in the middle, this is the ultimate BDSM toy to keep your partner submissive during light bondage play. Tied securely at the back, with the bar situated in your mouth, here the dominant is able to allow...
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                                              Inflatable Positioning Wedge - Steamy Shades

                                              Steamy Shades
                                              BO DP 4041937579197
                                              R449
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                                                Deluxe Inflatable Wedge & Cuff Bondage Kit - Steamy Shades

                                                Steamy Shades
                                                BO DP 4041937579296
                                                R2,299
                                                The Deluxe Steamy Shades Inflatable wedge and cuff set is the ultimate set to allow you to explore new sexual positions combining light bondage play.With a large inflatable wedge made from strong plastic and reinforced seams, you are able to explore any position from doggy style to missionary thanks to it's unique non-slip design. With a set of...
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                                                  Basic Clitoral Pump - SAIZ

                                                  SAIZ
                                                  EDC SAIZ007
                                                  R699
                                                  This quality clitoral pump by international brand SAIZ is the ideal pump if you are looking to increase pleasure, enhance your orgasms, or if you are suffering from symptoms related to clitoral atrophy. Designed to function using air pump action thereby creating a vacuum and increasing blood flow, this pump features a cup that fits snugly around your...
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