BDSM


Discover our sensual range of sexy BDSM toys, deliberately selected to improve modern BDSM play between couples with a taste for tipping power dynamics in the bedroom. Enjoy pushing the limits of abandon with our bondage gear, like the restraints & ties, bondage kits, blindfolds, whips and paddles on offer – sure to set your bedroom games on fire.

Submit to more risk and thrills in your relationship with our range of sexy bondage toys.

Give In To a New Kind of Power Play

Sexy BDSM has recently become a mainstream concern, thanks to writers like EL James of the 50 Shades series. Also called ‘ligotage’ this form of bedroom play is a milder, softer version of extreme BDSM play (bondage, dominance, submission, sadomasochism).


This new type of light bondage does not necessarily have anything to do with sadomasochism, even though many similar instruments and toys are used during play. Many couples are realizing that subtle power play can be a very arousing bedroom pursuit.


Often pleasure is derived from these power dynamics, as the lover that is tied up is forced into a vulnerable position, which can be exhilarating to experience. The lover performing the sexy bondage will gain visual pleasure from having so much control over their partner. Your choice of bondage sex toys will dictate how light or intense the experience gets.


BDSM toys don’t have to be hard-core and uncomfortable, in fact most in our range are silk-lined, luxury items that add to the sensual couple’s experience. With this kind of light bondage gear, the limits are only as high as your imagination is broad.

Surrender To These Bondage Games

At Désir, we have selected only the best sexy BDSM toys for you to enjoy. Choose from our variety of restraints & ties that come in leather, metal or silk materials. We also have soft rope restraints and fluffy handcuffs for ultra-motivated couples.


Outside of the basic ‘bonds’ we also have collar & leash packs for exciting role playing possibilities, and a broad selection of whips & paddles made from leather or silk, depending on your personal preference.


Some great additions to any sexy bondage play include masks & blindfolds to heighten the sensory experience of being restrained and teased, or a set of ticklers to ensure that every second of the game is memorable and arousing.


For the couples that have gone from light to moderate bondage, there is also a comprehensive range of nipple clamps and harnesses, and swings to add to your growing repertoire of delightful power plays.


No matter what your bondage gear requirements may be, Désir has made sure that every need is covered, from the soft silk mysteries of the novice, to the hard leather punishments of the pro; every couple will find what they are looking for in our online store.


Browse the most powerful range of sexy bondage toys available online in South Africa, and honour yourself exactly how you want to this year. Warning: Thrills ahead!

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  • R249
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    Shimmering Flash Cross nipple pasties from Bijoux are eye-catching under a plunging neckline or transparent top. These pasties are flexible enough to adapt to different breast shapes, and are fully reusable. Use them to surprise in the bedroom, or discreetly flash a sexy secret under your evening dress.

  • R799

    Elegant and earth-friendly, these thin handcuffs can be worn as bracelets for a discreet nod to BDSM culture, or joined with the chain for at-home antics. Made from recycled materials, the cuffs are both trendy and sturdy, and completely vegan-friendly. The Maze range by Bijoux Indiscrets is carefully crafted so you can show off the trappings of the...

  • R249
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    The Japanese Clover Nipple Clamps by Lux Fetish are a set of clamps designed to plump your nipples by allowing you to adjust the pinch of the clamps according to your personal pleasure threshold. With padded tips on each end, and an ultra tight grip, these nipples clamps are joined together by a high quality steel chain and are designed for erotic...

  • R399
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    These Fifty Shades Darker Chained Nipple Clamps gently pinch whilst offering pleasure. With a beaded chain which can be tugged for added stimulation, these adjustable nipple clamps are nickel free and contain a silicone tipped clamp providing cushioning comfort. Designed for couple play, these clamps provide you with a completely different sensationary...

  • R429
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    The beauty of these adjustable nipple clamps with beaded weights is that they are perfectly designed for both beginners and pain purveyors. The soft silicone tips create a firm hold around the nipple with no sharp edges. Adjust the pinch factor by sliding the metal bar up or down to tighten the clamps around the nipple. The small ball weights at the base...

  • R279

    You’ll graduate to a new appreciation of the pleasures of pain with these intense nipple clamps from the Fifty Shades of Grey collection. These metal rings clamp directly onto your nipples with no gentle silicone or pvc padding to protect this tender area. It’s a new sensation, and not for beginners, but one well worth the challenge. The...

  • R279
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    This Fifty Shades Darker Beaded Clitoral Clamp provides the most exquisite pinch. Intensifying solo play, foreplay, and sex, this clamp increases blood flow to the sensitive nerve endings of the clitoris providing you with the most intense sensations. Nickle free and with weighted beads to keep it steady, this clamp comes with a satin storage bag.

  • R1,299
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    The Slap & Tickle set by Rocks Off is a set designed to allow couples to experiment with light dominance be it through a light tickle, a sizzling sting, or a play of seductive dominance. Exciting both you and your partner's senses, the slap & tickle set features a blindfold made from elegant satin, a feather tickler to excite your senses , wrist...

  • R1,299
    1 Review

    Start your adventures into the world that your favourite kinky couple explore in the Fifty Shades of Grey series. This beginner’s kit contains four adjustable satin ties, a soft satin eye mask, and a satin- and faux leather-covered paddle. Restrain your lover to the bedposts by wrapping the soft satin ties around wrists and ankles and securing...

  • R399

    Indulge in a feminine fantasy with these soft and sensual cuffs from Bijoux Indiscrets. They won’t hold you back from exploring, but they’ll certainly set the scene for some serious bedroom role-play. These luxurious cuffs are made in satin and organza, joined by a simple and elegant silver chain. Combine them with sophisticated and sexy...

  • R1,399
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    This Fifty Shades Darker 7 piece Advanced Couples Kit is the perfect bondage kit for couples that are used to bondage play. With a blindfold to heighten the senses, rope for multiple position restraint, bondage tape for simple tie up play, a mini paddle to stimulate senses, a bullet vibrator, a vibrating cock ring to enhance foreplay, and a silicone anal...

  • R649

    This Lux Fetish Hog Tie Set is a BDSM couple's dream. Take full control of your partner while they're secured in positions that you and they never thought possible. With all four adjustable cuffs meeting at a center point, connected by rings and swiveling connector clasps, you are able to control and move positions according to your taste. Cuffs can...

  • R549

    This bondage tape set by Fifty Shades of Grey is the perfect restraining tape set for beginners. With it's self-adhesive and reusable qualitites, you are able to design your own make shift harnesses, cuffs, collars and more. With three rolls of tape in black, red and grey colouring, you and your partner are able to explore and delve into soft bondage play.

  • R299

    This 18m bondage tape is perfect for bondage games not requiring knots or adhesive. Sticking only to itself and not your skin or hair, this tape is skin friendly and available in white, purple, and black. Remember to practise safe play and have a scissor ready for quick release.

  • R299

    This Fifty Shades Darker Bondage Bow Tie is designed to work as a bow tie but also doubles up as a bondage item, whether it be a blindfold, wrist or ankle tie. Perfect addition for discreet bondage play.

  • R549

    Place yourself at your lover’s mercy when you hand them the satin storage bag containing the Fifty Shades of Grey Ultimate Control Handcuff Restraint Set. This set is designed for versatile bondage play, with two soft, padded cuffs attached to Perspex bars that can be caught in a doorframe or bed frame to hold you helplessly bound. With large...

  • R599

    Sophisticated yet oh-so-suggestive to a partner in the know, these beautiful black pearl cuffs by Bijoux Indiscrets become the ultimate bondage accessory with the addition of a simple silver chain. Wear the cuffs individually with a glamorous outfit or luxurious lingerie to signal to your partner that you’re up for exploring the pleasures of...

  • R749

    The Maze tassled choker by Bijoux is a gorgeous leather look choker made from 100% recycled materials. Adjustable with a buckle at the back of your neck, the tassle choker can either be worn as a bold necklace or can double up as a leash type collar for safe BDSM play. Turn it into a whip to excite your partner or match it with one of the amazing Bijoux...

  • R799

    The Bijoux wide choker with leash is the perfect necklace for your boldest outfits. Attach the necklace to the leash and use this versatile choker for submissive BDSM play. 100% adjustable, this buckled choker is detacheable and can be used a a bold necklace or bondage accessory. 100% vegan, this choker is made from recycled materials and is available in...

  • R699 R1,099

    Shibari is an ancient, artistic, Japanese form of rope bondage. Shibari style rigging creates geometric patterns and shapes that contrast beautifully with the human body’s natural curves. Demoniq has incorporated this concept in a new lingerie collection. The Asami style within the Shibari range is a bra and panty set made from black, elasticated...

  • R899 R1,499

    Add a new dimension to date night and feel like a rock star in this sexy leather-look set. The figure-hugging cami-corset, hipster panties and fishnet stockings have a feisty feel that will set your partner’s pulse going. To add to the fun, this three-piece lingerie set is part of the Demoniq Shibari range, and includes two 8m ropes and instructions...

  • R999
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    Add a little sensual submission to your bedroom look with this BDSM-inspired H-harness by Bijoux. The Maze range of trendy bedroom accessories is a nod to the S&M styles currently dominating the catwalks. It supports and accentuates the breasts and leaves the back sensually bare. Pair it with a lace panty and nipple caps for a more playful look, or let it...

  • R89

    Desir Intimate Collection: White Satin Eye Mask. A soft Satin Eye Mask in draw string satin bag, to enhance your senses or ensure a perfect slumber.

  • R479
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    The trick to this sensuous satin wrist tie is the central loop, which makes it easy to restrain your partner, and to undo after play. This Fifty Shades of Grey silky scarf is 135 cm long, giving you plenty of room to wrap, tie and add a bow as a finishing touch to your bedroom bondage explorations. In sexy black and white, with Fifty Shades branding...

  • R629
    1 Review

    This double-sided spanking paddle from the Fifty Shades of Grey range is perfect for those new to the delights of impact play. On one side, sensual satin padded with neoprene invites you to run the paddle over an eager bottom, and perhaps administer a few light taps to warm up. On the other side, unpadded faux leather will deliver a smart spanking,...

  • R799
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    The Sensua whip by Lelo is a mini-flogger great for a gentle whipping or sensory play. The short handle and suede tassels gently tickle when dragged across erogenous zones, or deliver a light sting when flicked gently from the wrist. The Sensua is a petite 35.5cm long from handle to fall end, with 40 suede falls (tasseled ends). The suede is gentle...

  • R649

    This elegant small faux leather flogger in silver and black is ideal for sensation play or, if you’re more wickedly inclined, genital flogging. A languid stroke will tickle and tease, while a firm hand will deliver a light stinging sensation and bring blood to the skin’s surface, warming and engorging. Start out with a gentle stroke and build...

  • R799 R1,499

    Rocks Off continually surprise us with their inventiveness, and the Lust Linx Deliver is no exception. This two-in-one toy is both a vibrator and a fantastically fun flogger. The flogger section is made of silicone links that project a dungeon-like look worthy of a BDSM scene, but are soft enough to not do any damage to skin or nerve endings. In...

  • R429

    These Lux Fetish Faux Fur Ankle Cuffs are perfect for restraining your partner, whilst letting them still play with their hands. Featuring a lock and chain, these ankle restraints are fully adjustable and are made of premium steel clips. The comfortable faux fur makes wearing them comfortable, allowing you to focus on the intense pleasure of being...

  • R1,249
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    The Fifty Shades of Grey Spreader Bar & Cuff set is a versatile and modern take on the classic bondage accessory. With the idea of inserting your ankles into the cuffs and fastening them to the spreader bar, you are now able to adjust the bar to position your legs widely and then lock them into position, leaving your intimate areas fully exposed. Fully...

  • R499
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    This Lux Fetish Strap-On Harness is perfect for beginners wanting to experience the pleasures of the role-reversal and domination.  With it's sturdy rubber O rings is compatible with most flared base dildos. With it's fully adjustable 4 way straps fitting up to 152cm hip measurement, it give you a custom fit, allowing you to take full control. 

  • R2,599
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    Tantus' Bend Over Intermediate Strap on Kit is the perfect way to explore strap-on sex. With two smooth 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone dildos, the Medium and Large Silk, this kit comes with a velvet harness that is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60” hips), and machine washable. With a one touch vibrator fitting snugly on the pouch on the front of...

  • R2,999
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    Take your sexual experience to another level with e-stim! By means of electro-stimulation you can stimulate or heavily excite almost every area of your body! Enjoy the indescribable comforting tickling sensation that spreads through the entire body and leads you to a new dimension of satisfaction. For both experts and beginners, the mystim is perfect if...

  • R1,899

    The John Butt Plug is tapered in the classic butt plug shape that allows for easy insertion and comfortable wear. The wider ‘waist’ section gives a feeling of pleasant fullness, and the narrow shaft fits naturally into the rectum. The flat base makes this butt plug discreet and comfortable for longer wear. Made from hand polished medical grade...

  • R1,799

    The Double Dan is a smooth, smaller sized metal e-stim dildo designed for beginners to electroplay. The classic rounded tip and approximately 6.5cm of insertable length make this slimline dildo very comfortable and easy to insert. It’s made of medical grade aluminium, which is completely body safe and can be warmed or cooled to enhance your...

  • R2,199
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    The smooth, cool metal and six sinuous balls on this Mystim dildo may be all the sensation you need to take you over the edge. The Bal(l)zac is an extra-long hand-polished aluminium dildo in high quality medical grade aluminium. It is beautifully cool to the touch, and can be cooled further in a fridge or warmed up for incredible sensation play. At 15.5cm...

  • R1,399

    Take your prostate play up a notch with the Flexing Flavio electro-stim prostate massager. This high-quality silicone prostate massager is a comfortable 9.5cm insertable length with a tapered end for easy insertion and a bulbous tip for stronger prostate stimulation. Similar shaping to the front of the base offers additional perineum massage and a...

  • R3,299
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    The CB-6000 Male Chastity Device is a new and innovative design in male chastities, which offers the ultimate in both comfort and security. Used for couple or bondage play, chastities allow you to postpone his pleasure, providing the key holder the ultimate power in unleashing his orgasmic pleasure. Made of medically graded material allowing for long term...

  • R999
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    This Lux Fetish Door Slam Love Swing allows you to turn any standard door into a versatile and thrilling sex swing. Perfect for helping you and your partner discover different angles and positions to add to your repertoire. Simply shut the cuff loops into the door frame and use the fully adjustable straps to position you comfortably. Can hold a maximum...

  • R1,999

    For your own pleasure or as the perfect gift for a naughty friend, the Dare Me Pleasure Set from Lelo is both elegant and wicked. It includes a soft suede flogger, silk cuffs and Luna Beads Mini Noir. Lelo Luna Beads are pleasure-enhancing kegel exercisers that train the muscles for longer, stronger orgasms and more pleasure for your partner. This...

  • R499

    In this new BDSM How To book, 50 Shades of Curious- BDSM for Beginners, BDSM educator Bo Blaze, PCC draws from his over 20 years of experience to provide an accessible introduction to the mysterious worlds of kinky sex and BDSM.  Written for a diverse audience and friendly to those who have little to no experience with concepts like dominance and...

  • R199 R349

    This Fifty Shades Darker Pinwheel is a simple design intended for all levels of sensory experimentation. With 22 spokes, use the metal pinwheel by rolling it gently on the body to add a thrilling sensory play leaving your partner guessing and wanting more.

  • R2,499 R3,199

    Lelo's Bridal Pleasure Set is perfect for the bride to be, the perfect honeymoon gift, or for countless nights of passion. All in white, this set contains a sensual pearl studded silk blindfold, a teaser whip ring of soft suede, and most importantly the Noa couples vibrator - to be worn by the woman during lovemaking. 

  • R529

    Sweet Torture by Fifty Shades of Grey are adjustable nipple clamps with a difference. These clamps form part of the Fifty Shades of Grey Weekend Collection and have single speed, vibrating bullets to provide hands-free stimulation. They are made from soft silicone with a slide-to-fit toggle function that won't pinch, making it comfortable to wear and...

  • R349
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    Your partner will really feel the effect of restraint when you use these solid metal handcuffs to secure their restraint, but for their safety and your peace of mind a quick release mechanism ensures there will be no nasty surprises. Stylish metal keys make the cuffs seem realistic, while a release lever to the side of each lock makes it quick and easy to...

  • R1,199
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    This restraint kit consists of four cuffs with Velcro fastenings and quick release swivel clips, fully adjustable straps and a soft blindfold. Use the cuffs in pairs to secure wrists or ankles together, or clip them to the straps for full body restraint. The adjustable straps will fit any size of bed: set the size and slip the straps under the mattress,...

  • R429

    Fifty Shades of Grey Totally His handcuffs are soft, padded handcuffs with a metallic satin finish for an elegant bondage effect. These cuffs are fastened with Velcro, and joined in the centre with a quick release clip that can be linked to other restraints for a full bondage experience. Fully adjustable, these comfortable and safe wrist cuffs make a...

  • R329

    Whether you loved Fifty Shades, hated it but couldn't put it down, or never read it but think yor sex life could use some serious spicing up, then 150 Shades of Play is for you! This helpful and hilarious illustrated A-to-Z guide is brought to you by America's sex-writing sweethearts EM & LO, 150 Shades of Play will make your Christian and Ana fantasies a...

  • R249

    Bored with vanilla sex? Now that a certain bestseller has set imaginations afire, everyone's eager to explore the world of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism). Let the fun and games begin, with this sizzling-hot guide to power play! Learn the ropes (literally) of bondage, try titillating torture for a spanking good...

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