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Discover our sensual range of sexy BDSM toys, deliberately selected to improve modern BDSM play between couples with a taste for tipping power dynamics in the bedroom. Enjoy pushing the limits of abandon with our bondage gear, like the restraints & ties, bondage kits, blindfolds, whips and paddles on offer – sure to set your bedroom games on fire.

Submit to more risk and thrills in your relationship with our range of sexy bondage toys.

Give In To a New Kind of Power Play

Sexy BDSM has recently become a mainstream concern, thanks to writers like EL James of the 50 Shades series. Also called ‘ligotage’ this form of bedroom play is a milder, softer version of extreme BDSM play (bondage, dominance, submission, sadomasochism).


This new type of light bondage does not necessarily have anything to do with sadomasochism, even though many similar instruments and toys are used during play. Many couples are realizing that subtle power play can be a very arousing bedroom pursuit.


Often pleasure is derived from these power dynamics, as the lover that is tied up is forced into a vulnerable position, which can be exhilarating to experience. The lover performing the sexy bondage will gain visual pleasure from having so much control over their partner. Your choice of bondage sex toys will dictate how light or intense the experience gets.


BDSM toys don’t have to be hard-core and uncomfortable, in fact most in our range are silk-lined, luxury items that add to the sensual couple’s experience. With this kind of light bondage gear, the limits are only as high as your imagination is broad.

Surrender To These Bondage Games

At Désir, we have selected only the best sexy BDSM toys for you to enjoy. Choose from our variety of restraints & ties that come in leather, metal or silk materials. We also have soft rope restraints and fluffy handcuffs for ultra-motivated couples.


Outside of the basic ‘bonds’ we also have collar & leash packs for exciting role playing possibilities, and a broad selection of whips & paddles made from leather or silk, depending on your personal preference.


Some great additions to any sexy bondage play include masks & blindfolds to heighten the sensory experience of being restrained and teased, or a set of ticklers to ensure that every second of the game is memorable and arousing.


For the couples that have gone from light to moderate bondage, there is also a comprehensive range of nipple clamps and harnesses, and swings to add to your growing repertoire of delightful power plays.


No matter what your bondage gear requirements may be, Désir has made sure that every need is covered, from the soft silk mysteries of the novice, to the hard leather punishments of the pro; every couple will find what they are looking for in our online store.


Browse the most powerful range of sexy bondage toys available online in South Africa, and honour yourself exactly how you want to this year. Warning: Thrills ahead!

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  • R1,499

    You’ll be spanking in style with this gorgeous leather and suede paddle from the Fifty Shades of Grey Cherished collection. A rose gold handle with filigree detail to the tip gives you a good grip to deliver hearty thwacks to the bottom of a naughty sub, bringing them quickly to the edge of a painful ecstacy. Double sided for stinging leather slaps...

  • R1,799
    1 Review

    The Cherished Suede Flogger is beautifully matched with the Cherished Feather Tickler to create a sensory experience that will keep them coming back for more. This luxurious purple suede flogger with elegant rose gold handle finished with stunning filigree detail is a real treat for the Dom who has everything. The 45cm long tassels can be trailed along...

  • R649

    The ultimate in sensual indulgence, this beautiful Cherished Feather Tickler by Fifty Shades of Grey is both opulent and wicked. The elegant rose gold handle fits easily into your hand, and contrasts gorgeously with the purple feathers. Tease and tantalise your partner with the purple plumage until they’re begging for more…. Combine this...

  • R1,299

    The Cherished collection for Fifty Shades of Grey is stunning in purple leather with rose gold trim. This ball gag is so sexy that your sub may even enjoy the silence. The ball itself is made in a soft and fully safe silicone, while the adjustable headstrap is leather with gold details and back buckle. The ball on this Cherished Ball Gag is a comfortable...

  • R2,499

    Keep your sub under control in these strong and sexy ankle cuffs finished with rose-gold buckles, D-rings and attractive chain to join. With padded insides for comfortable long wear, these beautifully finished purple leather ankle restraints from the Fifty Shades of Grey Cherished collection will be a well-used essential in your BDSM toy collection. Pair...

  • R2,499

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Cherished Wrist Cuffs definitely mean business. These thick, buckled cuffs in sensual purple leather are solid enough for some serious BDSM play, with strong buckles and D-rings for attaching them together or to a hard point. They come with a pretty but strong rose-gold chain with quick-release clips to easily join them or unclip...

  • R2,499

    This gorgeous purple leather collar and leash set with rose gold connecting chain will have you begging for BDSM play just so you can wear it. The collar is padded, with carefully sewn finishes for comfortable wear. The buckle detail makes it easily adjustable. The rose gold chain leash with leather handle clips easily on to the D-ring on the collar,...

  • R1,299

    The sensual purple of the Fifty Shades of Grey Cherished collection sets it apart from the rest of this range, and the high quality finishes make these pieces well worth investing in for your BDSM toy collection. Sensory play can be combined with bondage or impact for a more intense experience, or simply as a gentle introduction to sensuous delight. The...

  • R399
    Out of stock

    This exquisite nipple and clitoral chain by Fifty Shades Freed, offers the thrill of sensation, pleasure and pain. With adjustable, silicone-tipped nipple clamps and a slide to fit clitoral clamp, you are able to adjust, pinch, and pressure the clasps to suit your degree of sensory intensity. Through increased sensitivity and heightened stimulation, your...

  • R499

    This gorgeously silky bondage rope by Fifty Shades Freed is a soft, luxurious, triple-twisted rope perfect for erotic shibari play. In a rich purple tone and a silky soft finish, this bondage rope is soft enough for beginners but long and sophisticated enough for more experienced players. With 10 metres in total, you have ample to explore the art and...

  • R1,499

    The Steamy Shades Binding Set is the perfect kit allowing you a night of sensual and light bondage play. From vertical intimate play via the over the door connector, to hogtie and rope binding, and bed restraint tethers,  this kit has your restraint needs covered. The Steamy Shades binding set also includes a blindfold and tickler, allowing you to...

  • R699

    Elegant and earth-friendly, these thin handcuffs can be worn as bracelets for a discreet nod to BDSM culture, or joined with the chain for at-home antics. Made from recycled materials, the cuffs are both trendy and sturdy, and completely vegan-friendly. The Maze range by Bijoux Indiscrets is carefully crafted so you can show off the trappings of the...

  • R399

    The beauty of these adjustable nipple clamps with beaded weights is that they are perfectly designed for both beginners and pain purveyors. The soft silicone tips create a firm hold around the nipple with no sharp edges. Adjust the pinch factor by sliding the metal bar up or down to tighten the clamps around the nipple. The small ball weights at the base...

  • R279

    You’ll graduate to a new appreciation of the pleasures of pain with these intense nipple clamps from the Fifty Shades of Grey collection. These metal rings clamp directly onto your nipples with no gentle silicone or pvc padding to protect this tender area. It’s a new sensation, and not for beginners, but one well worth the challenge. The...

  • R279
    1 Review

    This Fifty Shades Darker Beaded Clitoral Clamp provides the most exquisite pinch. Intensifying solo play, foreplay, and sex, this clamp increases blood flow to the sensitive nerve endings of the clitoris providing you with the most intense sensations. Nickle free and with weighted beads to keep it steady, this clamp comes with a satin storage bag.

  • R1,499

    The Slap & Tickle set by Rocks Off is a set designed to allow couples to experiment with light dominance be it through a light tickle, a sizzling sting, or a play of seductive dominance. A beginners set to S&M or light bondage, you are able to excite both you and your partner's senses. The slap & tickle set features a blindfold made from elegant satin, a...

  • R999

    This Fifty Shades Darker Romantic Couples Kit is the perfect kit for beginners looking for soft bondage play.  With a blindfold to heighten the senses, silky wrist ties for restraint play, a mini feather tickler, a finger vibrator to stimulate, and an adjustable cock ring to prolong foreplay, this set is the perfect mix of non-intimidating, soft,...

  • R399

    Indulge in a feminine fantasy with these soft and sensual cuffs from Bijoux Indiscrets. They won’t hold you back from exploring, but they’ll certainly set the scene for some serious bedroom role-play. These luxurious cuffs are made in satin and organza, joined by a simple and elegant silver chain. Combine them with sophisticated and sexy...

  • R1,749
    1 Review

    This set from Steamy Shades covers all your basics for exploring bedroom bondage. All the pieces of the set are high quality and beautifully finished with a black lace detail that gives them an erotically feminine look. You’ll find a blindfold, wrist restraints, a length of silk rope, a feather tickler, nipple clamps, collar and leash and a riding...

  • R629

    A BDSM toybag essential, this Lux Fetish hogtie set has two sets of adjustable cuffs and a four-way central O-Ring that clips conveniently to the cuffs with D-Ring clips. The cuffs are soft, lined with velvet and fully adjustable with Velcro straps. The cuffs can be used individually to cuff wrists or ankles, or combined with the central ring or with...

  • R399

    The Hogtie set by Steamy Shades is a one size fits most restraining set designed to fit your wrists and ankles. Featuring a secure hook and loop tape system for the fastening of the straps, you are able to unfasten these ties quickly and easily when you need to, whilst the durable central metal ring keeps the straps in position whilst you and your partner...

  • R499

    This bondage tape set by Fifty Shades of Grey is the perfect restraining tape set for beginners. With it's self-adhesive and reusable qualitites, you are able to design your own make shift harnesses, cuffs, collars and more. With three rolls of tape in black, red and grey colouring, you and your partner are able to explore and delve into soft bondage play.

  • R299

    This 18m bondage tape is perfect for bondage games not requiring knots or adhesive. Sticking only to itself and not your skin or hair, this tape is skin friendly and available in white, purple, and black. Remember to practise safe play and have a scissor ready for quick release.

  • R549

    Place yourself at your lover’s mercy when you hand them the satin storage bag containing the Fifty Shades of Grey Ultimate Control Handcuff Restraint Set. This set is designed for versatile bondage play, with two soft, padded cuffs attached to Perspex bars that can be caught in a doorframe or bed frame to hold you helplessly bound. With large...

  • R599

    Sophisticated yet oh-so-suggestive to a partner in the know, these beautiful black pearl cuffs by Bijoux Indiscrets become the ultimate bondage accessory with the addition of a simple silver chain. Wear the cuffs individually with a glamorous outfit or luxurious lingerie to signal to your partner that you’re up for exploring the pleasures of...

  • R649

    The Maze tassled choker by Bijoux is a gorgeous leather look choker made from 100% recycled materials. Adjustable with a buckle at the back of your neck, the tassle choker can either be worn as a bold necklace or can double up as a leash type collar for safe BDSM play. Turn it into a whip to excite your partner or match it with one of the amazing Bijoux...

  • R699

    The Bijoux wide choker with leash is the perfect necklace for your boldest outfits. Attach the necklace to the leash and use this versatile choker for submissive BDSM play. 100% adjustable, this buckled choker is detacheable and can be used a a bold necklace or bondage accessory. 100% vegan, this choker is made from recycled materials and is available in...

  • R699 R1,099

    Shibari is an ancient, artistic, Japanese form of rope bondage. Shibari style rigging creates geometric patterns and shapes that contrast beautifully with the human body’s natural curves. Demoniq has incorporated this concept in a new lingerie collection. The Asami style within the Shibari range is a bra and panty set made from black, elasticated...

  • R799 R1,499

    Add a new dimension to date night and feel like a rock star in this sexy leather-look set. The figure-hugging cami-corset, hipster panties and fishnet stockings have a feisty feel that will set your partner’s pulse going. To add to the fun, this three-piece lingerie set is part of the Demoniq Shibari range, and includes two 8m ropes and instructions...

  • R829
    1 Review

    Looking to stimulate all erotic zones at the same time? The Spartacus Nipple and Clitoral tweezer style clamps do just that! By stimulating each erotic zone, you are able to increase the intensity of your orgasm allowing your entire body to share in the sensory overload. Three rubber tipped clamps are easily adjusted by simply sliding the steel ring...

  • R529
    Out of stock

    This Lux Fetish Pretty in Pink Strap-On Harness is perfect for beginners wanting to experience the pleasures of the role-reversal and domination. With it's sturdy rubber O rings is compatible with most flared base dildos. With fully adjustable 4 way straps fitting up to a 152cm hip measurement, it provides you with a comfortable fit. With a pink...

  • R899
    1 Review

    Add a little sensual submission to your bedroom look with this BDSM-inspired H-harness by Bijoux. The Maze range of trendy bedroom accessories is a nod to the S&M styles currently dominating the catwalks. It supports and accentuates the breasts and leaves the back sensually bare. Pair it with a lace panty and nipple caps for a more playful look, or let it...

  • R499
    Out of stock

    The LUX Fetish Vinyl King Size Bed sheet is ideal for non-mess and stain free play. Made from PVC this king size sheet fits most beds, and is stain, lubricant and oil safe.

  • R699 R1,499

    Rocks Off continually surprise us with their inventiveness, and the Lust Linx Deliver is no exception. This two-in-one toy is both a vibrator and a fantastically fun flogger. The flogger section is made of silicone links that project a dungeon-like look worthy of a BDSM scene, but are soft enough to not do any damage to skin or nerve endings. In...

  • R429

    These unisex leatherette cuffs are the perfect bondage accessory. Thick and rugged leatherette cuffs with a soft lining and strong connecting chain set the scene for your BDSM fantasy. Connect the cuffs together or use the chain and lock to connect them to other restraints or to a headboard or other furniture. (Be sure to keep the key handy for safety.)...

  • R879

    This beautiful harness is made from 100% PVC, comes with 2 x rubber hold rings and can accomodate any dildo with a flared base. It is fully adjustable and will fit up to 152cm waist. This comfortable harness is perfect for beginners & experts alike!

  • R2,699
    Out of stock

    Tantus' Bend Over Intermediate Strap on Kit is the perfect way to explore strap-on sex. With two smooth 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone dildos, the Medium and Large Silk, this kit comes with a velvet harness that is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60” hips), and machine washable. With a one touch vibrator fitting snugly on the pouch on the front of...

  • R1,899

    The John Butt Plug is tapered in the classic butt plug shape that allows for easy insertion and comfortable wear. The wider ‘waist’ section gives a feeling of pleasant fullness, and the narrow shaft fits naturally into the rectum. The flat base makes this butt plug discreet and comfortable for longer wear. Made from hand polished medical grade...

  • R1,799

    The Double Dan is a smooth, smaller sized metal e-stim dildo designed for beginners to electroplay. The classic rounded tip and approximately 6.5cm of insertable length make this slimline dildo very comfortable and easy to insert. It’s made of medical grade aluminium, which is completely body safe and can be warmed or cooled to enhance your...

  • R1,399

    Take your prostate play up a notch with the Flexing Flavio electro-stim prostate massager. This high-quality silicone prostate massager is a comfortable 9.5cm insertable length with a tapered end for easy insertion and a bulbous tip for stronger prostate stimulation. Similar shaping to the front of the base offers additional perineum massage and a...

  • R1,199
    Out of stock

    This Lux Fetish Door Slam Love Swing allows you to turn any standard door into a versatile and thrilling sex swing. Perfect for helping you and your partner discover different angles and positions to add to your repertoire. Simply shut the cuff loops into the door frame and use the fully adjustable straps to position you comfortably. Can hold a maximum...

  • R449

    Tease your lover with the softness of these beautiful feathers against their skin before trapping their wrists to explore the sensual pleasure of captivity. The strong silver chain joining the two delicate feather cuffs makes a pleasing contrast in sensation and beauty, and allows you to explore the world of bondage and restraint with a sense of fun....

  • R1,699

    This Steamy Shades Positioning Kit is pretty and feminine for an erotic boudoir feel, but it’s tough enough to meet the needs of a more experienced kinky player. The bed restraint kit is adjustable and versatile, with strong satin ties that will work on different sized wrists and ankles. The Door Jam Closet Cuffs give you a go-anywhere option to...

  • R1,999

    For your own pleasure or as the perfect gift for a naughty friend, the Dare Me Pleasure Set from Lelo is both elegant and wicked. It includes a soft suede flogger, silk cuffs and Luna Beads Mini Noir. Lelo Luna Beads are pleasure-enhancing kegel exercisers that train the muscles for longer, stronger orgasms and more pleasure for your partner. This...

  • R249
    2 Reviews

    Combine this sensual, soft, opaque padded eye mask with the Frou Frou cuffs and Lilly Whip, both from Bijoux Indiscrets, to set the scene for a night of sexy dominatrix roleplay. Your partner will love the heightened sensations of touch and sound when the element of sight is removed. Caress, tease and tantalise to build desire like never before.

  • R499

    In this new BDSM How To book, 50 Shades of Curious- BDSM for Beginners, BDSM educator Bo Blaze, PCC draws from his over 20 years of experience to provide an accessible introduction to the mysterious worlds of kinky sex and BDSM.  Written for a diverse audience and friendly to those who have little to no experience with concepts like dominance and...

  • R2,499 R3,199

    Lelo's Bridal Pleasure Set is perfect for the bride to be, the perfect honeymoon gift, or for countless nights of passion. All in white, this set contains a sensual pearl studded silk blindfold, a teaser whip ring of soft suede, and most importantly the Noa couples vibrator - to be worn by the woman during lovemaking. 

  • R529
    Out of stock

    Sweet Torture by Fifty Shades of Grey are adjustable nipple clamps with a difference. These clamps form part of the Fifty Shades of Grey Weekend Collection and have single speed, vibrating bullets to provide hands-free stimulation. They are made from soft silicone with a slide-to-fit toggle function that won't pinch, making it comfortable to wear and...

  • R329

    Whether you loved Fifty Shades, hated it but couldn't put it down, or never read it but think yor sex life could use some serious spicing up, then 150 Shades of Play is for you! This helpful and hilarious illustrated A-to-Z guide is brought to you by America's sex-writing sweethearts EM & LO, 150 Shades of Play will make your Christian and Ana fantasies a...

  • R249

    Bored with vanilla sex? Now that a certain bestseller has set imaginations afire, everyone's eager to explore the world of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism). Let the fun and games begin, with this sizzling-hot guide to power play! Learn the ropes (literally) of bondage, try titillating torture for a spanking good...

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