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Bondage is one of the most popular activities in the BDSM world, and has seen such a steep increase in popularity that the products now offer a far wider assortment than traditionally available.From restraints and handcuffs to whips and paddles, your bondage collection includes a multitude of dominance and submission pieces - with the most popular being the art of restraint.

Physical Restraints

With restraining being the most traditional form of bondage and discipline, the easiest way to restrain someone is to use restraints, cuffs & ties.While they do have their place in a Naughty Cop roleplay, we advise against using actual handcuffs, as they can easily hurt the wearer in not-so-sexy ways. The best cuffs are the soft-lined leather or faux leather cuffs, or even neoprene cuffs. These are usually joined by detachable chains or cords.


Bed restraint kits are very handy, as they have cords designed to fit under your mattress with cuffs extending out at four corners for wrists and ankles. They’re adjustable for all bed sizes (and person sizes) and can provide a real sense of full restraint without too much fuss.


If you’re interested in Shibari – the Japanese art of rope bondage – you’ll find plenty of information about it on the internet. You might even be lucky enough to find a local class if you live in a big city. Shibari has even made its way into the fashion world, with dresses adorned with diamonds and criss-crosses of elegant coloured rope. The best rope to use for Shibari is simple cotton sash cord (easily available at your local hardware store) or treated jute or hemp rope. Remember to get yourself a decent pair of safety shears if you’re planning to tie your partner up, just in case you need to cut them loose in a hurry. You don’t need a lot of knowledge to do some basic restraint ties with rope – just find a decent tutorial on YouTube and watch carefully. But don’t try complicated things like suspending your partner from the ceiling, as this can really be asking for trouble.


Whips and Paddles

If you visit a BDSM party, you’ll hear a lot of talk about impact play. This is basically when someone is smacked with an implement, whether it’s a hand (and who doesn’t like a little spanking from time to time?), cane, whip or paddle.


Paddles are great if you’re just getting started or are interested in more vanilla sex. They make a good whacking noise, and can feel quite heavy on the receiving end, but they’re unlikely to do any damage and are easy to hit accurately with.


Whips and crops can be a little more tricky, and you need to be careful not to hit in danger spots like the stomach or lower back. They can hurt quite a lot – it’s a stingy sort of pain – and leave bruises, so start gently and always consider the receiver. They’re still easier to manage and less likely to do major damage than canes or bigger whips can.


Remember, with all kinky play it’s important to have a safe word and to respect what your partner needs. If the play isn’t working for them, you must stop. Safe words are usually different to ‘no’ because in some kinds of kinky play a partner might want to be able to say ‘No’, ‘Don’t’ or ‘Stop’ as part of a role-play, without having you actually stop. So you want to choose a safe word that they can use only if they actually really want you to stop.


Nipple Clamps

Nipple play is an exciting part of sensory bondage play. Nipple clamps are applied to the nipples to cut off blood flow to that area. When they are removed, blood flow returns and the sensitivity of the nipples is greatly heightened. Depending on the tightness of the clamps, they may be fairly comfortable to wear or increasingly painful. Some nipple clamps are joined by a chain which may be decorative and also handy for a partner to tug on to increase sensation. For beginners, adjustable clamps or tweezer clamps are the easiest to work with. Clover Clamps have a mechanism that makes them particularly tight, and they are often the clamp of choice for sado-masochistic play.


Be aware, when removing nipple clamps, that the wearer may experience sharp pain. Make sure to take the clamps off quickly and not have them slip and clamp down again.


Masks

Masks & blindfolds used in BDSM play are not the frilly masks intended to conceal the wearer’s identity, however often those might appear on the covers of erotic novels. They are more like sleep masks, or blindfolds, intended to block the wearer’s sight. He or she is then more aware of sensation, as their dominant partner teases them with ticklers, toys, or whips. For some people, this is a highly erotic experience, while for others it’s a bit more scary. Either way, you can play with the feelings to create an intense sensual experience.


Ticklers

Ticklers are usually made of a bunch of light feathers at the end of a stick, and can be used to tease and titillate your partner’s body. These sex toyss are popular in kinky sensation play, especially if the receiving partner is masked or blindfolded. Light, quick touch or dragging the feathers along an erogenous zone may have different responses. Take your time and enjoy exploring how your partner enjoys the sensations.


Strap-On Harnesses

Strap-on harnesses allow a person to wear the dildo of their choice in order to penetrate a partner via strap on sex. Pegging, in which a woman penetrates her male partner anally, can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable experience for both partners.


The harness has an o-shaped ring at the front, through which the dildo is inserted, pointing outward. The harness is then strapped around the wearer’s hips and upper thighs and adjusted for best fit. Some harnesses have a pocket type space behind the o-ring which can hold a bullet vibrator against the clitoris of the wearer.


You can also find some harnesses designed for men to wear so that they can use a dildo and the penis for double penetration of a female partner’s vagina and anus. These are a bit harder to find.


Whatever your preference, bondage within the bdsm community relates specifically to the feeling of the temporary transfer of control and power and the ability to gain pleasure from the restrained partner’s submission. Many couples incorporate bondage into their sex lives, whether it be through the form of a sex game or a sexual fantasy enactment.


Remember, bondage is safer when conducted between trusted partners who respect each other’s boundaries and fully understand the risks involved and precautions necessary to ensure informed consent and safety. Your BDSM activities should never cause you any harm, pain, or excessive discomfort and any sexual act should be considered consensual.


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HogTie Set - Steamy Shades
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HogTie Adjustable Ankle and Wrist Restraining Set - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579098 D05.12.19
R349
The Hogtie set by Steamy Shades is a one size fits most restraining set designed to fit your wrists and ankles. Featuring a secure hook and loop tape system for the fastening of the straps, you are able to unfasten these ties quickly and easily when you need to, whilst the durable central metal ring keeps the straps in position whilst you and your partner...
Bondage Collar, Leash & Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades
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Bondage Collar, Leash & Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579142 D09.10.2019
R779
The collar, leash and nipple clamp set by Steamy Shades is the ultimate bondage kit. In a gorgeous grey and black lace detail, this stunning collar with it's padded finish has a matching leash which is detacheable allowing you the ultimate control. With adjustable nipple clamps, you can tighten the fit according to your pain or sensory threshold, allowing...
Positioning Set - Steamy Shades
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Positioning Set - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579227 D10.02.20
R1,699
This Steamy Shades Positioning Kit is pretty and feminine for an erotic boudoir feel, but it’s tough enough to meet the needs of a more experienced kinky player. The bed restraint kit is adjustable and versatile, with strong satin ties that will work on different sized wrists and ankles. The Door Jam Closet Cuffs give you a go-anywhere option to...
Spanking Crop - Steamy Shades
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Spanking Crop - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579234 D05.12.19
R429
The Spanking Crop by Steamy Shades is an elegant crop perfect for bondage lovers. With it's black faux leather this crop has stunning metal detail and provides a lip smacking sound when applied to soft skin. Perfect for beginners and experts alike, use this crop to warm up your skin and increase your sensory and orgasmic journey.
Over the Door Sex Swing for Couples - Steamy Shades
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Over the Door Sex Swing for Couples - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579111 D07.08.2019
R799
Turn any room of the house into your playground with the Steamy Shades door swing. Secure the barbell over the top of the door and shut the door to keep it in place. The door swing features an elegant black lace overlay on lustrous satin grey fabric. Sturdy enough to support adults to experience a variety of new sex positions.
Love Sling for Easy Positioning | Steamy Shades
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Love Sling for Easy Positioning - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579319 D27.08.2019
R649
This Love Sling by Steamy Shades is the perfect tool to help support your neck and thighs for perfect positioning allowing you to hit your favourite spots easily.  Experience the ultimate in erotic fantasies together with your partner and achieve positions effortlessly.With it's adjustable straps and soft padded straps, the love sling works perfectly...
Suction Cuffs - Steamy Shades
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Suction Cuffs - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579050 D011018
R499
These suction cuffs by Steamy Shades are designed specifically for secure fastening onto smooth surfaces. Lightly padded for comfort and beautifully finished in a luxurious lace overlay, these cuffs feature a hook and loop fastener and are perfect for experimenting with light bondage play.
Ball Gag - Steamy Shades
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Ball Gag - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579128 D06.01.2020
R679
This ball gag by Steamy Shades is a ball gag designed to provide an erotic experience to your light bondage play.Featuring a lightweight medium sized ball, this ball gag is comfortable and features a breathable design - giving both you and your partner the option of controlled prolonged bondage play. Finished off with two metal rings for ease of movement,...
Lace Hood - Steamy Shades
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Lace Hood - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579036 D011018
R299
This beautifully designed lace hood is the perfect accessory for your sensual bondage play. Allowing the perfect touch of anonymity, this hood has an ultra feminine look, and is delicately finished with a beautifully designed floral print lace overlay. Slip it gently over your head, pair it with your favourite bodystocking or lingerie set and Steamy...
Luxury Lace Overlay Paddle - Steamy Shades
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Luxury Lace Overlay Paddle - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579326 D25.06.2019
R449
This luxury paddle by Steamy Shades is bound to take your light bondage play up a notch.With a gorgous lace overlay design, this paddle not only brings a level of class and seduction, but allows a firm slap thanks to it's sturdy and solid design. A long handle with a satin loop ensures absolute precision and control whilst the longer paddle makes sure you...
Adustable Feather Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades
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AdJustable Feather Nipple Clamps - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579333 D10.02.20
R379
These gorgeous feather detailed nipple clamps by Steamy Shades are a 2-in-1 designed feather tickler and nipple clamps duo. With rubber coated tips, these fully adjustable nipple clamps are adjusted via the screw mechanism that enables you to take the pinch from varying degrees of pain and pleasure. With the feathers situated underneath, you gain the...
Under the Bed Ties - Steamy Shades
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Under the Bed Ties - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579104 D10.02.20
R949
These Under the Bed ties by Steamy Shades fit any bed and tuck underneath your mattress for full body restraint.Adjusting to fit any bed easily, these ties have a strap to the center that connect the restraints and a D-ring for effortless setup. With satin ties that feature a delicate printed overlay, these restraints are comfortable to wear, soft to the...
Wrist to Ankle Cuffs - Steamy Shades
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Wrist to Ankle Cuffs - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579067 D10.02.20
R599
The Wrist to Ankle cuffs by Steamy Shades are a unique set of adjustable cuffs that allow you to position your partner into a multitude of positions including the HogTie.In a gorgeous black and grey design, these cuffs feature a secure hook and loop velcro closure. Simply attach them securely to the wrists, adjust the velcro strap as tight or as loose as...
Satin Tie Bar Gag - Steamy Shades
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Satin Tie Bar Gag - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579135 D14.01.2020
R399
The satin tie bar gag by Steamy Shades is a different take to that of the traditional ball gag.Designed using satin ties on the side, and a supple bar gag in the middle, this is the ultimate BDSM toy to keep your partner submissive during light bondage play. Tied securely at the back, with the bar situated in your mouth, here the dominant is able to allow...
Deluxe Inflatable Wedge & Cuff Bondage Kit - Steamy Shades
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Deluxe Inflatable Wedge & Cuff Bondage Kit - Steamy Shades

Steamy Shades
BO4041937579296 D06.01.2020
R1,499
The Deluxe Steamy Shades Inflatable wedge and cuff set is the ultimate set to allow you to explore new sexual positions combining light bondage play.With a large inflatable wedge made from strong plastic and reinforced seams, you are able to explore any position from doggy style to missionary thanks to it's unique non-slip design. With a set of...
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RO-Zen Plus 7 Speed 2-in-1 Vibrating Penis Ring and Anal Plug - Rocks Off

Rocks off
BO811041012286 D28.01.2020
R799
The Rocks Off RO-Zen penis ring is a one of a kind penis, scrotum, perineum, and anal stimulator in ONE. The ultimate toy for the man who wants to experience heightened orgasms, prolonged intercourse, delayed ejaculation and a multi-sensory experience. With a 1.4 inch penis ring fitting around your shaft and a 1.5 inch scrotal ring that stretches...
RO-Zen Pro 2in1 Penis Ring & Vibrating Anal Plug - Rocks Off
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RO-Zen Pro Vibrating Penis Ring & Prostate Massager - Rocks Off

Rocks off
BO811041011401 D11.02.20
R1,199
The RO-Zen vibrating Penis Ring and prostate massager is an all in one cock ring, perineum massager, anal plug, and prostate massager! This is the ultimate toy for the man who wants to enjoy prolonged play, delayed ejaculation, an increase in orgasmic strength due to the anal and prostate massage, and an all over multi-sensory orgasmic experience! With a...
Wearable Penis & Ball Sheath - Oxballs
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Wearable Penis & Ball Sheath - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215118905 D07.02.20
R1,299
This amazing SackJack Penis Sleeve by Oxballs is an award winning penis sleeve that doubles up as a ballsling and a penis enhancer giving you a stronger shaft, a visual impact, and more intense orgasms.Worn over your penis and testicles, this sleeve features textures, nubs, and ridges on the inside giving you intense pleasure on your shaft, whilst the...
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Smooth Ribbed Adjustable Muscle Penis Sheath - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215111081 D11.02.20
R1,199
The Smooth Muscle Penis Sheath by Oxballs is an amazingly flexible and comfortable penis sheath designed to act as a second skin - enhancing your penis length as well as your erection strength.Made from body safe flexible silicone, this penis sheath keeps perfectly in place during penetration thanks to the suction effect. With it's soft TPR ridges on the...
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CockSling 2 Cock & Ball Sling - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215100146 D31.01.2020
R449
The CockSling designed by Oxballs is a two-in-one penis ring designed to suppport and promote firmer and bigger erections, visually create a larger bulge, and to give you a stronger and more powerful orgasm at the same time.With it's ergonomic design and it's stretch FlexTPR material, this ring fits firmly around both your testicles...
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Eight Ball Stretcher Penis Rings - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215100917 D31.01.2020
R639
The 8 Ball Stretcher by Oxballs is a two-in-one ball stretcher and penis ring that promises explosive pleasure on each and every thrust.Featuring a two-in-one ergonomic design, this Skinflex soft silicone stretcher features two rings - one to be worn around the base of your penis and the other to fit snugly around your testicles. With the larger ring...
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Dual Penis Ring & Ball Sling 360 - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215118844 D07.02.20
R439
The 360 Dual Penis ring and ball sling by Oxballs is a dual purpose penis ring that not only provides you with a more impressive size and shape, but also ensures you gain a firmer erection and delayed ejaculation at the same time.Made from super soft FlexTPR, this stretchy 360 ring is worn around the base of your shaft whilst the soft padded base pushes...
Butch Penis Enlargement Sleeve - Oxballs
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Butch Adjustable Penis Enlargement Sheath - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO840215119384 D07.02.20
R1,299
The Oxballs Butch Penis Sheath is an effective penis enhancer that instantly increases both your size and girth. Made from the incredibly super soft Super FlexTPR material, this sleeve is designed to fit like a glove. With it's added texture and super veiny finish, the realistic design moulds to your penis perfectly - giving you an instant boost in girth...
Tension Lover e-stim Kit - Mystim
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Tension Lover E-stim Unit - Mystim

Mystim
BO4260152460008 D14.01.2020
R2,799
Take your sexual experience to another level with e-stim! By means of electro-stimulation you can stimulate or heavily excite almost every area of your body! Enjoy the indescribable comforting tickling sensation that spreads through the entire body and leads you to a new dimension of satisfaction. For both experts and beginners, the mystim is perfect if...
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