BDSM


Discover our sensual range of sexy BDSM toys, deliberately selected to improve modern BDSM play between couples with a taste for tipping power dynamics in the bedroom. Enjoy pushing the limits of abandon with our bondage gear, like the restraints & ties, bondage kits, blindfolds, whips and paddles on offer – sure to set your bedroom games on fire.

Submit to more risk and thrills in your relationship with our range of sexy bondage toys.

Give In To a New Kind of Power Play

Sexy BDSM has recently become a mainstream concern, thanks to writers like EL James of the 50 Shades series. Also called ‘ligotage’ this form of bedroom play is a milder, softer version of extreme BDSM play (bondage, dominance, submission, sadomasochism).


This new type of light bondage does not necessarily have anything to do with sadomasochism, even though many similar instruments and toys are used during play. Many couples are realizing that subtle power play can be a very arousing bedroom pursuit.


Often pleasure is derived from these power dynamics, as the lover that is tied up is forced into a vulnerable position, which can be exhilarating to experience. The lover performing the sexy bondage will gain visual pleasure from having so much control over their partner. Your choice of bondage sex toys will dictate how light or intense the experience gets.


BDSM toys don’t have to be hard-core and uncomfortable, in fact most in our range are silk-lined, luxury items that add to the sensual couple’s experience. With this kind of light bondage gear, the limits are only as high as your imagination is broad.

Surrender To These Bondage Games

At Désir, we have selected only the best sexy BDSM toys for you to enjoy. Choose from our variety of restraints & ties that come in leather, metal or silk materials. We also have soft rope restraints and fluffy handcuffs for ultra-motivated couples.


Outside of the basic ‘bonds’ we also have collar & leash packs for exciting role playing possibilities, and a broad selection of whips & paddles made from leather or silk, depending on your personal preference.


Some great additions to any sexy bondage play include masks & blindfolds to heighten the sensory experience of being restrained and teased, or a set of ticklers to ensure that every second of the game is memorable and arousing.


For the couples that have gone from light to moderate bondage, there is also a comprehensive range of nipple clamps and harnesses, and swings to add to your growing repertoire of delightful power plays.


No matter what your bondage gear requirements may be, Désir has made sure that every need is covered, from the soft silk mysteries of the novice, to the hard leather punishments of the pro; every couple will find what they are looking for in our online store.


Browse the most powerful range of sexy bondage toys available online in South Africa, and honour yourself exactly how you want to this year. Warning: Thrills ahead!

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  • R1,299

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Spreader Bar & Cuff set is a versatile and modern take on the classic bondage accessory. With the idea of inserting your ankles into the cuffs and fastening them to the spreader bar, you are now able to adjust the bar to position your legs widely and then lock them into position, leaving your intimate areas fully exposed. Fully...

  • R1,299
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    Inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy, this First Time Bondage Kit is the perfect all inclusive kit for beginners. With the satin tie restraints, satin blindfold, and a faux leather spanking paddle, this set allows you and your partner to explore your boundaries and senses safely and luxuriously. A great combination for a bit of bedroom play. 

  • R2,399

    Tantus' Bend Over Beginner Strap on Kit is the perfect way to explore strap-on sex. With two smooth 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone dildos, the Small and Medium, this kit comes with a velvet harness that is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60” hips), and machine washable. With a one touch vibrator (that uses 1 X 1.5 V N Type...

  • R2,299

    For your own pleasure or as the perfect gift for a naughty friend, the Dare Me Pleasure Set from Lelo is both elegant and wicked. It includes a soft suede flogger, silk cuffs and Luna Beads Mini Noir. Lelo Luna Beads are pleasure-enhancing kegel exercisers that train the muscles for longer, stronger orgasms and more pleasure for your partner. This...

  • R279

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure and Pain Nipple Rings allow you to experience the insatiable feeling of both pleasure and pain simultaneously. Adorned with beautiful beads to add additional weight, wear one on each nipple by gently opening the ball tips and placing them on either side of your nipple. Perfect for beginners and experts alike, giving you...

  • R1,299

    The Slap & Tickle set by Rocks Off is a set designed to allow couples to experiment with light dominance be it through a light tickle, a sizzling sting, or a play of seductive dominance. Exciting both you and your partner's senses, the slap & tickle set features a blindfold made from elegant satin, a feather tickler to excite your senses , wrist...

  • R2,299

    Indulge in the ultimate bedroom experience with the Indulge Me Pleasure Set by Lelo. A soft silk blindfold and feather tickler encourage sensual foreplay. Top off the experience with incredible shared vibrations from the Noa couples vibrator.

  • R1,199
    1 Review

    This Fifty Shades Darker Wild Couples Kit is the perfect bondage kit for adventurous play. With a blindfold to heighten senses, wrist cuffs to restrain, a mini flogger to awaken the senses, a vibrating cock ring for dual stimulation, silicone nipple suckers for super sensitive erect nipples, and silicone anal beads to boost orgasmic intensity, this set is...

  • R999

    The Lelo Tantra Sensua Whip provides a more stylish addition and daring approach to your bondage bedroom play. With soft suede tassels, this sensua whip allows you to vary the intensity of each blow, from softly sensual for awakening your senses to the more experienced and direct sting. Perfect for that erotic and suggestive gift.

  • R629

    This Lux Fetish Hog Tie Set is a BDSM couple's dream. Take full control of your partner while they're secured in positions that you and they never thought possible. With all four adjustable cuffs meeting at a center point, connected by rings and swiveling connector clasps, you are able to control and move positions according to your taste. Cuffs can...

  • R299

    This Fifty Shades Darker Bondage Bow Tie is designed to work as a bow tie but also doubles up as a bondage item, whether it be a blindfold, wrist or ankle tie. Perfect addition for discreet bondage play.

  • R1,699

    The Positioning set by Steamy Shades is a restraining and positioning ,set allowing you to take your sexual positions to new heights. With an inflatable wedge pillow for the ultimate support and positioning, you are able to easily inflate and deflate your pillow on use, making it perfect for travel and reuse. With the set's luxury door jam closet cuffs,...

  • R549

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Ultimate Control Hand Cuffs are perfect for turning your bedroom into a bondage playground. With a soft velvet lining on each of the cuffs, these restraints are comfortable to wear and feel amazing - remember to play safe!

  • R329

    Whether you loved Fifty Shades, hated it but couldn't put it down, or never read it but think yor sex life could use some serious spicing up, then 150 Shades of Play is for you! This helpful and hilarious illustrated A-to-Z guide is brought to you by America's sex-writing sweethearts EM & LO, 150 Shades of Play will make your Christian and Ana fantasies a...

  • R729

    The Maze tassled choker by Bijoux is a gorgeous leather look choker made from 100% recycled materials. Adjustable with a buckle at the back of your neck, the tassle choker can either be worn as a bold necklace or can double up as a leash type collar for safe BDSM play. Turn it into a whip to excite your partner or match it with one of the amazing Bijoux...

  • R799

    The Bijoux wide choker with leash is the perfect necklace for your boldest outfits. Attach the necklace to the leash and use this versatile choker for submissive BDSM play. 100% adjustable, this buckled choker is detacheable and can be used a a bold necklace or bondage accessory. 100% vegan, this choker is made from recycled materials and is available in...

  • R799 R1,199

    Shibari is an ancient, artistic, Japanese form of rope bondage. Shibari style rigging creates geometric patterns and shapes that contrast beautifully with the human body’s natural curves. Demoniq has incorporated this concept in a new lingerie collection. The Asami style within the Shibari range is a bra and panty set made from black, elasticated...

  • R999 R1,499

    Shibari is an ancient, artistic, Japanese form of rope bondage. Shibari style rigging creates geometric patterns and shapes that contrast beautifully with the human body’s natural curves. Demoniq has incorporated this concept in a new lingerie collection. The Emi style within the Shibari range is a corset, panty and fishnet stocking set. The black,...

  • R399

    New to nipple clamps? Why not try out these fun and fancy nipple clamps that are adjustable, so you determine how far you will go! The feather additions are not only aesthetically pleasing, but the tickling and teasing effects will also add to your experience! The clamps are made from durable metal clips and are covered in soft rubber liners to ensure...

  • R949

    Rocks off introduces the new Lust Linx 2 in 1 Vibrator and Flogger. With a 6 inch ridged vibrator offering 3 vibrations and 7 pulsations, this toy introduces new thrills and light S&M, building your excitement every step of the way. With body safe silicone chain links, you are able to feel them bounce off your skin, whilst anticipating the next exciting...

  • R829
    1 Review

    Looking to stimulate all erotic zones at the same time? The Spartacus Nipple and Clitoral tweezer style clamps do just that! By stimulating each erotic zone, you are able to increase the intensity of your orgasm allowing your entire body to share in the sensory overload. Three rubber tipped clamps are easily adjusted by simply sliding the steel ring...

  • R849

    This beautiful harness is made from 100% PVC, comes with 2 x rubber hold rings and can accomodate any dildo with a flared base. It is fully adjustable and will fit up to 152cm waist. This comfortable harness is perfect for beginners & experts alike!

  • R999

    The Bijoux Maze Harness is a BDSM inspired harness which is 100% adjustable across the neck, chest, and back. Perfect to be worn over your lingerie or with a sexy set of nipple pasties, this harness goes perfect with any look, lingerie or bare skin. 100% natural, this leather look harness is made from recycled materials and adds a bold look to any outfit...

  • R89

    Desir Intimate Collection: White Satin Eye Mask. A soft Satin Eye Mask in draw string satin bag, to enhance your senses or ensure a perfect slumber.

  • R799

    These amazing Maze leatherlook handcuffs from Bijoux are 100% vegan and made from recycled materials. Wear them as wrist bands or connect them together with the detacheable chain to form a gorgeous pair of BDSM handcuffs. Perfectly paired with a set of ankle cuffs or hogtie for safe BDSM play.

  • R899

    The Ultimate Domination is an all-in-one cuff set that is the perfect accessory to your playful bondage scenario. The cuffs are made from pleather and are secured by buckles, providing a comfortable, but secure fit. The set includes neck, wrist and ankle restraints, all connected together with chains that are easily detachable should you require ankles or...

  • R429

    These Lux Fetish Faux Fur Ankle Cuffs are perfect for restraining your partner, whilst letting them still play with their hands. Featuring a lock and chain, these ankle restraints are fully adjustable and are made of premium steel clips. The comfortable faux fur makes wearing them comfortable, allowing you to focus on the intense pleasure of being...

  • R2,699

    Tantus' Bend Over Intermediate Strap on Kit is the perfect way to explore strap-on sex. With two smooth 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone dildos, the Medium and Large Silk, this kit comes with a velvet harness that is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60” hips), and machine washable. With a one touch vibrator fitting snugly on the pouch on the front of...

  • R2,699

    Lelo's Bridal Pleasure Set is perfect for the bride to be, the perfect honeymoon gift, or for countless nights of passion. All in white, this set contains a sensual pearl studded silk blindfold, a teaser whip ring of soft suede, and most importantly the Noa couples vibrator - to be worn by the woman during lovemaking. 

  • R1,899

    The Mystim John is made from hand polished medical grade aluminum and with its smooth design, makes it the perfect butt plug for easy insertion. With the poles being located only a few centimeters from the tip, rhythmic pulsating or soft tingling can be experienced soon after insertion. Not only can you control the settings via the e-stim device...

  • R1,799

    The Double Dan by Mystim is an e-stim dildo that is perfect for beginners due to its compact & straight shape. Made from medical grade aluminum, it allows for easy insertion when used with your favourite lubricant. The plus and minus poles are located on a few centimeters from the tip, ensure a soft tingling or a rhythmic pulsating sensation that can be...

  • R2,199

    The Bal(l)zac from Mystim is an extra-long e-stim dildo that has 6 balls to offer intense anal or vaginal stimulation. It is made from hand polished medical grade aluminum, which, when accompaied by lubricant, glides over the skin for easy insertion. The Bal(l)zac is an attachment for the Mystim Tension Lover e-stim Unit (sold separately), however...

  • R1,599

    The Flexing Flavio is an e-stim prostate stimulator attachment for the Mystim Tension Lover Electro Stimulation unit. Its flexible design allows you to manipulate its shape to one that pleases you most, however will still retain its original form. The conductive surface is on the internal arm, ready to provide you with the best prostate...

  • R2,999

    Take your sexual experience to another level with e-stim! By means of electro-stimulation you can stimulate or heavily excite almost every area of your body! Enjoy the indescribable comforting tickling sensation that spreads through the entire body and leads you to a new dimension of satisfaction. For both experts and beginners, the mystim is perfect if...

  • R3,299

    The CB-6000 Male Chastity Device is a new and innovative design in male chastities, which offers the ultimate in both comfort and security. Used for couple or bondage play, chastities allow you to postpone his pleasure, providing the key holder the ultimate power in unleashing his orgasmic pleasure. Made of medically graded material allowing for long term...

  • R249
    1 Review

    This Bijoux PomPom Feather Tickler is the perfect accessory to your bedtime sensory experience. With a tiny balled handle, these black feathers are perfect for stroking, tickling, touching, and tempting. Perfect for adding a sensory experience to your bedtime play.

  • R599

    The Bijoux Plasir Nacre Handcuffs are designed in a beautiful pearl finish of either black or white pearl, and are a more rigid handcuff. Use these to beautifully adorn your favourite lingerie enticing your partner to heighten your senses and practice a little bit of control.

  • R499

    In this new BDSM How To book, 50 Shades of Curious- BDSM for Beginners, BDSM educator Bo Blaze, PCC draws from his over 20 years of experience to provide an accessible introduction to the mysterious worlds of kinky sex and BDSM.  Written for a diverse audience and friendly to those who have little to no experience with concepts like dominance and...

  • R299

    This Fifty Shades Darker Pinwheel is a simple design intended for all levels of sensory experimentation. With 22 spokes, use the metal pinwheel by rolling it gently on the body to add a thrilling sensory play leaving your partner guessing and wanting more.

  • R279

    This Fifty Shades Darker Beaded Clitoral Clamp provides the most exquisite pinch. Intensifying solo play, foreplay, and sex, this clamp increases blood flow to the sensitive nerve endings of the clitoris providing you with the most intense sensations. Nickle free and with weighted beads to keep it steady, this clamp comes with a satin storage bag.

  • R529

    Sweet Torture by Fifty Shades of Grey are adjustable nipple clamps with a difference. These clamps form part of the Fifty Shades of Grey Weekend Collection and have single speed, vibrating bullets to provide hands-free stimulation. They are made from soft silicone with a slide-to-fit toggle function that won't pinch, making it comfortable to wear and...

  • R349
    1 Review

    The Fifty Shades of Grey You are Mine Metal Handcuffs are more traditional handcuffs perfect for bondage submission. With a lock and 2 functional keys, these handcuffs have a safety mechanism providing you with the piece of mind that your bondage play is always safe. Remember to play safe!

  • R1,199

    This Fifty Shades of Grey Under the Bed Hard Restraints Kit transforms your bedroom into a bondage playground. Ideal for beginners, this bedroom bondage set can be used to create a full body restraint that's quick and easy to secure. 

  • R429

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Totally His Soft Hand Cuffs are strong yet comfortable handcuffs made of a velvet lining, sleek satin outer, and velcro straps for the perfect fit. With their quick release clips and D ring, they are designed for versatility and can be used separately or clipped together for more erotic light bondage play. 

  • R629
    1 Review

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Spanking Paddle Twitchy Palm is a soft dual sided padded satin and firm faux leather paddle guaranteed to deliver sensational spanking. The dual sided material allows you to vary the intensity of the spank, making this a great sensory accessory to your bondage play.

  • R499
    1 Review

    These Fifty Shades of Grey Soft Limits Satin Restraint Wrist Ties are soft and silky, and perfect for light bondage or beginner play. Restrain your partner and allow their senses to run wild. Use in conjunction with one of our massage candles to enhance the sensory experience.

  • R629

    The Fifty Shades of Grey Please Sir Flogger is a petite faux leather flogger whip in metallic silver and black. A step up from the feather ticklers and more sensitive floggers, this flogger delivers sharp licks intensifying your senses making it ideal for the more experienced user. 

  • R429

    These Pinch Adjustable weighted Nipple Clamps are straight out of the Fifty Shades of Grey explosion and provide for the ultimate in intense sensory overload of pleasure and pain. Perfect for beginners and experts alike, you can adjust the pinch according to your own taste with the adjustable pressure escalating your sensitivity - providing you with an...

  • R1,599

    The Steamy Shades bondage set is the ultimate set for exploring bondage, kink and control. With the set including a collar with leash and nipple clamps, feather tickler, riding crop, blindfold, silk bondage rope, and wrist restraints you have absolutely everything you need to go from beginner to expert in the intimate journey of bondage play. Restraining...

  • R699

    The collar, leash and nipple clamp set by Steamy Shades is the ultimate bondage kit. In a gorgeous grey and black lace detail, this stunning collar with it's padded finish has a matching leash which is detacheable allowing you the ultimate control. With adjustable nipple clamps, you can tighten the fit according to your pain or sensory threshold, allowing...

  • R449

    This bondage tape set by Fifty Shades of Grey is the perfect restraining tape set for beginners. With it's self-adhesive and reusable qualitites, you are able to design your own make shift harnesses, cuffs, collars and more. With three rolls of tape in black, red and grey colouring, you and your partner are able to explore and delve into soft bondage play.

  • R399

    From the author of underground bestseller "SM 101" comes this compendium of sensible, sensational advice about how to tie up your sweetie, or get tied up yourself..."An instant classic; Jay Wiseman has distilled his decades of experience into an invaluable volume brimming wiht insight... Now where did I leave that clothesline?" - Prometheus"An essential...

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