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Prostate Health, the ins and outs, by Catriona Boffard

October was all about pink, and now November was all about purple. This month, people the world over were raising awareness about prostate cancer through campaigns, growing their “mo’s” and even running races in nothing but speedos to get more people involved and educated.

But because of the scary nature of cancer and even more so prostate cancer, there is often lack of education on this organ and avoidance of regular health checks to screen for the disease; both of which could save many lives.

What role does the prostate play? Is it all serious business or is there pleasure too?

The prostate is a male-specific organ found in a man’s internal reproductive organs. It plays a fundamental role in male sexual health. It is a walnut sized gland situated between the bladder and the rectum. It produces fluid, which surrounds sperm and thus is released with semen when a man ejaculates. Essentially it helps keep his swimmers healthy! The muscles of this gland also help to propel ejaculate fluid. As a man ages, this gland can swell and unfortunately can become cancerous. However, this little male-only organ can also be a great source of pleasure… Let’s look at the good and the not so good:

What exactly is prostate cancer?

Prostate cancer is when cancerous cells or tumours affect the prostate. It’s the most common male cancer and unfortunately can grow slowly and quietly; meaning it can go undetected and wreck more havoc.

Symptoms might be different in one man to another, but can include symptoms such as blood in your semen or urine, pain when urinating, loss of bladder control or painful ejaculation. It’s advised that a man has regular (annual) screening from the age of 50, but if you have risk factors such as family history, then it’s advise to start earlier. So many men are daunted by the process of screening (which involves a rectal exam and a prostate specific androgen (PSA) test, but I cannot stress enough how important it is to attend regular check ups – it could really be the difference between early detection or when it’s too late!

So what about P-spot play then?

The P-Spot (affectionately nicknamed in a similar fashion to that of the G-Spot in women) is simply a nickname for the prostate.

It’s been given this nickname due to the pleasure it can bring a man when it is massaged or stimulated. Men who’ve tried having this part of the bodies explored and played with by their partner often report intense pleasure and even more intense orgasms. P-spot play is very common in same-sex couples, but more and more heterosexual men are talking about the pleasure they’ve experienced from having their P-Spot stimulated by their partner. P-Spot stimulation is done through the rectum (yes, your back door) and the man’s partner gently massages the inner front wall of the man’s rectum as the P-Spot sits just in front of this wall. It can also be stimulated by massaging the perineum; the bit of skin that sits between the anus and a man’s testicles.

Using gloves can make things cleaner and safer for both partners, as nails can’t get in the way and there’s less to clean! If he likes being stimulated rectally, I cannot emphasise enough how important lubricant is. Use lube, more lube and then some more! This body part does not naturally produce it’s own lubrication, and in order for there to be pleasure and not pain (the bad kind), lubricant is essential!

Some men would prefer no one ever went near this area, and for some partners, the request for a P-Spot massage might be an absolute no. But for those who’ve tried it, it can be extremely satisfying and pleasurable, and who wouldn’t want to experience pleasure or bring their partner intense pleasure.

Désir’s Recommended products for prostate play:

Vibro 6 Speed Vibrating Prostate Massager

Billy Luxurious 6 Speed Vibrating Prostate Massager 17cm – Lelo

Fuzion Xchange Luxurious 2-in-1 Vibrating Prostate Massager with Remote Control

Club Vibe 3.0H Hero Sound Activated Vibrating Vibrating Prostate Massager with Remote

 

About Catriona Boffard

Catriona Boffard

Catriona Boffard is a Sexologist, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapist, Sexuality Researcher & Educator and Author. She is a globally recognized authority on sex, and has delivered her expert advice on TV, radio, corporate and public platforms. She is an expert in the field of sexual behaviour and well-being, with a particular interest in helping couples reestablish their sexual intimacy and empowering women to embrace their sexuality. She works from a biopsychosocial perspective; assessing and treating clients through an integrative approach which explores the physiological, psychological and social factors behind their concerns.

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