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How to Choose the ideal gift this festive season!

Adult sex toy shops are fast becoming convenient online gift stores. Below we explain what kind of gifts you can find to impress your lover or friends. The choice is yours!

Sex toy gifts are among the most intimate you can give to your significant other, or at the next wild bachelorette party you are invited to.

Knowing which kind will impress is a vital skill.

When you are bold enough to give the gift of a sex toy, you run the risk of choosing a lame item, something completely inappropriate or something that is outright laughed at or rejected by someone closest to you – be it a friend or a partner.There are some smart techniques that you can use to guarantee that your choice of adult toy is appreciated, admired and yes – even adored by the person you have bought it for.

First, find your favourite online sex toy store and prepare for good decision making!

Everything You Need To Know (And Have Never Heard) About Sexy Gifts

The right sex toy can be the best gift you’ve ever given. People have been gifting each other suggestive presents for centuries, knowing that sex is an essential part of a happy, healthy life.

In Western culture, when someone is about to be married a bridal shower and bachelorette party will be organized. This is when you usually jump online to check out your local adult sex toy shops.

It’s customary for friends and family to buy the bride a little raunchy item to make sure that their first nights of holy matrimony are especially memorable. Thanks to mainstream pop culture, friends are even getting each other sex toys for regular birthdays – as the taboo reaches record lows.

Your lover also presents a unique set of concerns, namely – what are they into? How long have you known them for? What are their kinks?

Bad gift decisions can be a real mood killer.

There are two kinds of people that you will gift with a sexy toy:

  • A close friend who you have never had sex with
  • A lover who you do regularly have sex with

The question becomes – how do you buy a suggestive gift for these individuals when there are so many choices that can go horribly wrong?

Let’s investigate good product decision making, and how it can be pared with some good suggestions from quality adult sex toy shops.

Buying Sex-Related Gifts: Rules For Close Friends and Family Members

As a general rule, only the closest of friends should ever be gifted with intimate toys like vibrators. And even then, convention dictates that the vibrator should be a non-realistic, high quality item. The only thing worse than giving someone a huge realistic penis, is giving them a cheap one.

Leslie Warming Vibrator – Svakom

Insatiable Desire G Spot Mini Vibrator – Fifty Shades of Grey

Cookie Rotating Clitoral Vibrator – Svakom

For other friends and family it’s always a good idea to play it safe by selecting gifts from adult sex toy shops that fit into the gifts and games categories. These encourage healthy sexual exploration without being explicit, offensive or downright embarrassing.

Here are the main rules:

1 If you have doubts that they will love the gift, don’t get it.
2 It is better to suggest a sexual experience in a product than to give a blatant experience.
3 Buy the gift according to who you are getting it for, not what you like.
4 If the gift will be opened in a public space in front of people, keep that in mind.
5 Always include batteries with your gift from luxury adult sex toy shops.
6 Go for quality, but stick to a goldilocks budget – not too costly, not too cheap, just right.
7 If all else fails and you can’t decide, an erotic book is a subtle and wonderful gift.
8 Never buy friends or family fetish gifts. Ever! (Unless that’s their thing)

Top 5 Impressive Gifts For Friends and Family

Adult sex toy shops that focus on luxury like we do, have a lot of great gifts and games to set your friends and relatives on the path of sexual expression. Sometimes this can be a life-changing gift that you order from an online sex toy store.

#1: Strip Poker at Its Finest

If your friend loves poker, then the Kama Poker couple’s game will keep them occupied into the wee hours of the morning on their honeymoon. Or anytime!

#2: The Really Cheeky Board Game for Adults

The really cheeky board game for adults is a board game of strategy & luck and can be enjoyed by couples. Designed as a game which encourages intimacy and fun, each throw of the dice moves you around the board allowing you purchase and manage businesses with the aim of making the most profit within the adult industry.



#3: The Incredible Dance Pole

Couple a beginner’s dance pole with some amazing lessons from the pros and you will have the greatest bachelorette party gift of all time. Hands down! Your local adult sex toy shops will have the unique items you need.

We recommend La Rouge lessons from Nadja and Nataniel Pires for Jo-berg residents, and Pole Dance Cape Town for locals.

Fetish Fantasy Dance Pole – PipeDream


#4: The DIY Aphrodisiac Kit

Few couples will consider taking covert sex toys on their honeymoon, which is why getting them something classic but covert (won’t show up on airport scans) is much appreciated.

The Wanderlust Aphridisia is a travel kit packed with massage oils, a feather tickler, satin cuffs, body mist and arousal crème – the perfect DIY arousal starter kit.

#5: Stripping Without The Pole

The art of the striptease is a fun thing to learn, and with Bijoux’s Stripteuse kit your friend will be trying out their Burlesque moves in no time. The kit comes with a feather boa, a red satin garter, sultry music and rhinestone nipple decorations, found at any number of adult sex toy shops online.

Buying Sex-Related Gifts: Rules For Your Lover Only

An impressive gift for your significant other depends on a few things. That’s why in this instance you have a totally different set of rules to shop by. Keep these in mind as you browse online.

1 Only buy items you have spoken about in the past, and know they will enjoy.
2 Gift vouchers can be an intimate, fun experience for both of you if you cannot decide.
3 Getting a better quality model of a well-liked toy is a safe bet and a solid choice.
4 If you choose something extreme, accept that it may never be used, and it may be seen as a joke.
5 Only buy from the best adult sex toy shops to avoid toxic, poor quality toy materials.

If you are buying a gift around Christmas time and you want to make sure that your new double ended dildo does not get unwrapped around your mother-in-law, use specific tag symbols.

According to Molly Fitzpatrick of the Date Report blog, each gift should be marked to prevent these kinds of accidents. Private gifts can go around the tree, but should be opened in private.

Top 5 Inspiring Gifts For Your Lover

If you are wondering how to choose the perfect sex toy for your partner from quality adult sex toy shops, check out our post on exactly how to do that right here.

#1: If you’re into edibles then check out these smoking hot edible gifts.
#2: Looking to get him some exciting solo play gear? You’ll find it here.
#3: Need to get her something special for more intimate solo play? Get it here.
#4: Why not play together with one toy made for two? Get them here.
#5: Step into the mysterious world of bondage and power play with these toys.

Adult sex toy shops stock a lot more than vibrators and anal plugs. There are luxury satins for your bed, upmarket fetish items and beautiful products to make you feel sexier and more desirable.

What Makes a Gift Impressive or Not?

Buying sex toys for friends and lovers can be awkward, so if you do it – you’ll want to err on the side of a larger budget.

You never want to hear “remember that restraints kit you got me for my hen party? It broke the first time we used it,” or “The dildo was a nice idea, but it’s leeching all sorts of stuff and I’m not putting that near my body.”

Impressive gifts tend to cover 3 bases. 1) They are right on budget. 2) They are upmarket, luxury items that don’t visibly come from China. 3) The person receiving the toy will actually use it. Get out there and comb the online adult sex toy shops to find the perfect sexy presents right away!

Or you can shop sex toys in South Africa right here, by browsing through Désir’s own range of carefully selected, increasingly impressive products.

What Do You Think? 

Thank you for reading our post, we hope you found it helpful. In the spirit of our mission we have one more thing to ask you! If you were buying a sexy gift for a friend which items would you consider safe, acceptable and embarrassment free? You can leave us a message on our adult shop contact us page or your can leave a comment below. We would really appreciate your feedback and input.

About Désir Intimate Collection

Désir Intimate Collection is South Africa’s most exclusive online store, devoted to giving our clientele private access to the finest designer brands on the intimate luxury market. Headquartered in Camps Bay, Cape Town, Désir Online has one main goal – to help our customers find stronger intimacy, form closer relationships and build passionate love lives by dispelling the myths and social stigmas that prevent people from sensual exploration & expression.

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