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Male Sex Toys Once Gave Dorothy Black Penis Envy

An egg once gave me penis envy. It was about 10 years ago when I saw the video of a silky, rubbery egg-shaped sleeve being stretched over a glass dildo in demonstration of a masterfully neat wank and it looked a treat.

The Tenga Egg was the future-forward Japanese answer to the design cringe that is the Fleshlight and, as the apex of man wank minimalism, it was unparalleled.

But it wasn’t the cleverly designed fap egg that really got me wanting a dong for a day. It was the follow-up click-through to their uber product: The Tenga Flip Hole.

Flip Hole D2 Red Vibrating Male Masturbator – Tenga

 

From the outside it looks like a mid-2000s MP3 player. On the inside, it’s a silicone wonderland of ridges, nodules, fans, waves and magical fairies that caress, suck, massage and ripple along the shaft of a penis.

My imaginary shlong longed to try it. It still does.

The crossover genital appreciation, I think, lies in all those sensations.

Unlike the usual penis sleeve-type masturbators that simply require an in/out thrust, the Tenga Flip Hole is about diverse and variable sensation – which is a crazy idea for mainstream attitudes when it comes to men and sex.

You see, when it comes to toys mimicking penetration, women’s diverse tactile sensuality is pandered to very broadly in sex toys; there are variable-speed vibrators, dildos in all shapes and sizes, textures and suctions, and pounders and massagers…

But men? For the most part, they just get ‘in/out’.

It’s very a limited view on male sexuality and the male sensual body and I wonder how we’re still here. After all, the dildo is suggested to date back some 30 000 years ago.

Then I remember what can apparently outlast time itself: stigmas around sex.

In this case, stigmas around men and sensuality (‘real men don’t do touchy feely’), men and toys (‘real men don’t need help’, ‘men only want in/out’), and men and anal play (‘real men don’t do “gay” stuff’)…

Of course, it could also just be ignorance and laziness. Most guys aren’t aware of the many different ways their body can experience pleasure and the myriad gadgets available to make this easy.

Hell, there isn’t really much talk around the myriad ways sex with a human woman can be different to just ‘in/out’.

Which makes me sad, because it’s a terrible waste of an opportunity. So guys, if you have a penis, please start seeing all the sensual ways you could play with it (and other parts of your sexual body aka your prostate).

Don’t make my five seconds of actual penis envy be for nothing.

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About Dorothy Black

Dorothy Black

Dorothy Black has worked as a journalist, columnist and media personality in the field of sex and relationships since 2008. Since then Dot has written sex and relationship features and columns for a number publications including Marie Claire, Balanced Life, MAN, Men’s Health, Grazia, The Edit and Mail and Guardian, among others; She’s written sex advice columns for Cosmopolitan, Balanced Life, Club and ClubX; She’s produced videocasts for News24 and HEAIDS; She’s headed up South Africa’s largest student sex survey in 2013; and in 2016 published her first book, The Dot Spot – Adventures in Love and Sex.

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