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3 Beautiful Aspects Of The Female Sexual Body By Dorothy Black

In honour of Women’s Month, I thought we should chat about three especially beautiful aspects of the female sexual body and the lowdown on some info that will benefit you any month of the year…

Discover your pleasure powerhouse

Far from being only the teeny, tiny little nib poking out of the female body, the clitoris is a complex internal organ nestled behind the labia.

Shaped like a wishbone – imagine it faced down and towards the front of her body – the clitoris is about 10 cm in length, with the arms stretching out and around the vagina. Because it’s made of nerve-rich erectile tissue, the clitoris becomes engorged, getting bigger and firmer during arousal.

If this is news to you, you’re not alone. Science ignored the female sexual body for thousands of years. It was only in 2005 that urologist Dr Helen O’Connell outlined the full anatomy of the clitoris and in 2009, 3D imaging made it easier for us to see the unseen.

Give your vagina some lube loving

While the clitoris has suffered neglect and stereotyping, the vagina’s had its own problems to deal with.

Ignorance around good penetration techniques and a lack of understanding around vaginal lubrication can result in a disappointing shag at best and a painful one at worst.

Most people think that if a woman is turned on, her body will provide enough lubrication. But this isn’t always the case. Hormones, stress, medication, liquor and smoking (among other things), will affect this even if she’s really in the mood. There’s nothing wrong here, it’s just the way it is.

One easy solution? Lube. Water-based vaginal lubricant is especially affordable and easy to find. Just dab a little or a lot in, on and around your sexy bits and off you go.Don’t ‘put up with’ painful sex due to a lack of lubrication. Not only is it unnecessary, it’s also unsafe.

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Boobs have a mind of their own

Did you know that some women can orgasm (or at least feel intense pleasure) from nipple stimulation?
Researchers think this is because sensations from nipples travel to the same part of the brain that registers feeling from the vagina, clitoris and the cervix.

When it comes to appreciating your breasts as erogenous zones remember that breasts are not a one-size-fits-all.

Breast tenderness is directly influenced by hormonal cycles and so they’ll feel sensitive, in good and bad ways, to different types of touch at different times throughout the month.

If you want to get handsy, experiment with what feels good every time, because it’s going to be different every time.

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About Dorothy Black

Dorothy Black

Dorothy Black has worked as a journalist, columnist and media personality in the field of sex and relationships since 2008. Since then Dot has written sex and relationship features and columns for a number publications including Marie Claire, Balanced Life, MAN, Men’s Health, Grazia, The Edit and Mail and Guardian, among others; She’s written sex advice columns for Cosmopolitan, Balanced Life, Club and ClubX; She’s produced videocasts for News24 and HEAIDS; She’s headed up South Africa’s largest student sex survey in 2013; and in 2016 published her first book, The Dot Spot – Adventures in Love and Sex.

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