SEX ESSENTIALS

Sex Essentials carefully selected to compliment your intimate journey, encourage sound sexual health and wellness, and ensure a more satisfying and rewarding sex life.


Desir’s sex essentials are products that have been introduced with the purpose of making your sexual experience that much more satisfying. From lubes and condoms, to supplements and medically sound intimate care products, our essential category offers you the best complimentary products and must-haves for your sexual health and wellbeing.


What is good sexual health?

Feeling good about your body and taking care of your physical and emotional health are all part of being sexually healthy. Physically this can relate to regular sexual health exams, getting tested for sexually transmitted infections, preventing unwanted pregnancies and having a healthy hygiene regime when it comes to cleaning your sex toys and taking care or your body.


But additionally, your emotional or mental health also has an enormous role to play in your attitude towards sex and your sexual health status. Feeling good about your body, giving yourself permission to enjoy sexual pleasure, and being comfortable with your sexual orientation and gender are huge parts of one’s sexuality and can have a fundamental impact on how you perceive yourself, others, and your sexuality.


How do I have good sex?

Planned parenthood states that good sex comes from understanding how your body works. Whilst sex is not a one size fits all experience, good sex comes down to being confident with your body, knowing what you like and don’t like, and understanding your sex drive and pleasures.


It is in this regard that Desir’s range of Essentials have been carefully curated to ensure that you have the best sex possible, whilst taking care of your sexual health and wellness at the same time.


Sexual Health Supplements

With so many factors impacting our sex lives, one of the biggest contributors is that of low libido or poor sex drive. Science has come a considerably long way in providing formulations that not only increase your sexual libido, but also assist with symptoms related to menopause, erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, and stamina.


Brands like Solal have focussed specifically on formulations, vitamins and minerals that contain essential ingredients like vitamin b12, vitamin b6, ginseng, fenugreek, and maca root that are natural testosterone boosting herbs. Not only proven to increase your libido, these ingredients are specifically known to alleviate symptoms related to erectile dysfunction, poor sperm quality, infertility, and are known to positively support and boost male and female sexual function. A completely natural alternative to anabolic and pharmaceutical steroid medicines, brands like Solal, LaMelle, Vitaforce, and Erex provide you with the option of adopting a far more holistic approach to your sexual health.


Stimulants and Enhancers

When it comes to stimulation and increasing your arousal and genital blood flow, several brands like Shunga, Wicked, Intimate Earth, and Pjur focus specifically on products designed to intensify your sexual experience.


From clitoral arousal serums and pleasure gels to aphrodisiacs and prolong sprays, Desir has a range of complimentary serums and elixirs that have been proven to amplify your sexual experience. Use them in conjunction with your favourite intimate product or simply for an increase in your masturbation or solo play


Explore the sensory experience of applying serums that encourage warmth, cooling, tingling, and relaxation and stimulate your nerve endings to encourage stronger orgasms and a heightened sense of arousal.


Personal Care and Product Care

One of the most important aspects to sound sexual health, is that of good personal and product care.

With conditions like bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, vaginal infections, and STD’s, it is critical to follow a health regime that supports your sexual lifestyle. From intimate toy cleaners and disinfectant wipes, to vaginal douches and condoms, Desir has ensured that you have all you need to practice safe sex and avoid cross-contamination.


WebMd lists the use of a good intimate wash as the number one priority after sex. Not only limited to the cleansing of your genital areas, cleansing of your sex toys is just as important and with the introduction of foam or gel sex toy cleaners, taking care of your sex toys has never been easier.


With much controversy around the practice of douching and specifically with regards to women who douche, douching before or after anal sex (also referred to as rectal douching) is widely practiced to clean the anal area in preparation for sex.


With a variety of douches that range from shower attachment to bulb hand held douching apparatus, douching is best practiced with warm water and should be repeated until the water runs clean. EndHIV provides a word of caution for douching too frequently stating that it can damage the lining of the rectum, making you more susceptible to to HIV infection should you choose to not use a male condom.


Desir Panel of Medical Experts

To encourage positive sexual health and wellness, Desir has introduced a medical panel of experts that specialise in sexual health and promote sexual health and wellness - for both men and women. From gynaecologists and aesthetic practitioners, to sexologists and psychotherapists, Desir’s sexual health doctors are available for consult via our treatments category. With a variety of procedures, consults, and services available, your mental and physical sexual health is of the utmost importance to us and we are proud to offer you access to some of South Africa’s most renowned doctors who specialise in their respective fields.

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vSculpt Vibrating Pelvic Floor Toning & Vaginal Rejuvenation Therapy - JoyLux

JoyLux
JL VSculpt
R6,999
The vSculpt is a revolutionary gynaecologically designed home-use device used to stimulate tissue and encourage blood flow for better pelvic health. Non-hormonal and non-invasive, the vSculpts treats bladder leakage, vaginal dryness, pelvic pain, and sexual dysfunction, whilst assisting in restoring the tissue and muscles of your pelvic floor in the...
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Penis Pump Starter 1 - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937407575
R499
This classic penis pump by Malesation is perfect for those looking to achieve longer-lasting intercourse, a stronger erection, and delayed ejaculation quickly and safely. A transparent cylinder made of ABS plastic with an integrated measurement scale allows you to monitor your gains whilst the silicone base makes it comfortable to wear whilst creating a...
Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation 2
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Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315719
R189
This versatile penis ring by Malesation is a double banded ring featuring a 'rabbit ear' head that promises dual satisfaction for both partners. With it's super-stretchy, body-safe silicone design, this cock ring is a soft, odourless, non-porous ring that is both easy to clean and fully waterproof. Designed to provide longer-lasting pleasure for him as...
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Pulse Solo Essential Male Masturbator - Hot Octopuss

Hot Octopuss
BO DP 5060354560686
R3,599
The Pulse Solo Essential male masturbator by Hot Octopuss has been dubbed the ultimate 'guybrator' sex toy for men. Designed using body-safe ultra soft and seamless silicone, this hands-free guybrator requires no stroking action whatsoever. It's versatile design allows you to use it whether flaccid or erect, and with it's Pulse Plate technology provides...
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Sparta Prostate Massager - Nexus

Nexus
BO DP 5060274220776
R1,899
The Sparta prostate massager by Nexus is a luxury anal massager that uses unique stroker technology featured in the tip of it's shaft to precisely stimulate the prostate. The ergonomic design allows easy insertion whilst the looped handle at the base on the massager allows you to have absolutely control and precision on how deep or where to massage....
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Senzzze5 Male Masturbator - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937404109
R449
The Senzzze5 male masturbator by Malesation is a super-soft, extremely flexible stroker designed to give you added sensation, pleasure and support during masturbation. Ergonomically designed, Senzzze features a natural shape and measures 13cm in length with the ribbed length measuring in at 9cm. Giving you a super-hug along your shaft, you simply add a...
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BFit Classic Kegel Exerciser - BSwish

B Swish
BO DP 4897106300082/99/75
R599
The BFit Classic Kegel balls are perfect for those wanting to strengthen their pelvic muscles, avoid urinary incontinence, or experience stronger and more frequent orgasms.  Featuring a set of two customizable kegels complete with four interchangeable free-floating weights, these kegels allow you to start with a lighter weight of 28g and slowly...
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Pillow Talk Frisky Dual Set Kegel Balls - Swan

Swan
BO DP 677613567161
R749
These beautifully designed Pillow Talk Frisky kegel pleasure balls are perfect for increasing your desire whilst strengthening your kegel pelvic muscles at the same time. Made from 100% soft body safe silicone, these weighted kegels deliver a stimulating rocking motion in reaction to your natural movements. Insert them deep within your vaginal canal...
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Little Friends Kegel & Wand Set - Minds of Love

Minds of Love
BO DP 4041937313753
R1,199
The Minds of Love Little Friends set is the perfect combination for beginners or women who require a more discreet vibrator that will both tone their pelvic muscles and stimulate at the same time. Featuring two products, this set contains an ergonomically designed wand vibrator as well as a double stimulation kegel device. The wand massager with it's...
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Men-X Xerus Couples Penis Ring - Rocks Off

Rocks off
BO DP 811041014174
R1,099
The Xerus by Rocks off is the ultimate power for couples or solo pleasure. Designed to be worn around the base of his shaft, the Xerus features 10 highly powerful vibrations and pulsation levels and offers intense pleasure whether worn alone or with your partner. Versatile in it's design, you are able to wear the the vibrating head underneath the shaft,...
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Relentless Vibrations Love Ring with Remote - Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey
BO DP 5060680311198
R1,899
The Relentless Vibrations Love Ring by Fifty Shades of Grey is a remote controlled penis ring that promises extended play, harder erections, and delayed orgasms. Designed using super soft body safe silicone, this dual ring fits snugly at the base of your penis with the secondary ring secured around your testicles. With the dual squeeze of both of these...
HydroMax7 Wide Boy Hydrotherapy Penis Pump - Bathmate HydroMax7 Wide Boy Hydrotherapy Penis Pump - Bathmate 2
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HydroMax7 Hydrotherapy Penis Pump - Bathmate

Bathmate
BO DP 5060140209607/560
R3,199
The Bathmate Hydromax 7 (previously known as the HydroMax X30) is the ultimate male hydrotherapy pump. An external rigidity device, the Bathmate HydroMax7 offers 35% more power than the Hydro7, and utilises the amazing power of water to give you an erection in a completely safe and controlled manner. Using vacuum technology to create sufficient rigidity...
Big Ox Super Mega Stretch Penis Ring - OxBalls Big Ox Super Mega Stretch Penis Ring - OxBalls 2
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Big Ox Super Mega Stretch Penis Ring - OxBalls

Oxballs
BO DP 840215119513/20/37
R299
The OxBalls Big Ox Penis Ring is a versatile, flexible, and soft ring designed to either be worn around the base of your penile shaft or around your testicles. Made from a mixture of body-safe TPR and silicone, this super stretchy, flexible, and soft ring is thick in it's design, but focuses on giving you more girth and more strength. Restricting your...
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Vibro 8 Dual Penis Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315214
R425
The Malesation Vibro 8 Ring is a vibrating dual penis ring designed to be worn around both your testicles and the base of your shaft. Made from super-stretchy ABS & TPE material, this soft and flexible ring fits snugly around your testicles, gently pulling out the base of your penis. With the second ring fitting snugly around the base of your shaft, you...
Tom of Finland Heavy Duty Penis Pump - Tom of Finland Tools Tom of Finland Heavy Duty Penis Pump - Tom of Finland Tools 2
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Tom of Finland Heavy Duty Penis Pump - Tom of Finland Tools

Tom of Finland
BO DP 848518026545
R3,999
The Tom of Finland range is based on the world renowned artist Tom of Finland's fetish art. With alluring images of hyper masculine men, Tom's leatherman, bikers, cowboys, cops, and lumberjacks all form part of these iconic symbols and illustrations. With each product within the range featuring a collector's card, you are able to enjoy Tom's work and...
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Tom of Finland Clear Realistic Penis Enhancer - Tom of Finland Tools

Tom of Finland
BO DP 848518020499
R1,399
The Tom of Finland range is based on the world renowned artist Tom of Finland's fetish art. With alluring images of hyper masculine men, Tom's leatherman, bikers, cowboys, cops, and lumberjacks all form part of these iconic symbols and illustrations. With each product within the range featuring a collector's card, you are able to enjoy Tom's work and...
Feranti Hold Me Tight Kegel Toning Kit - Rocks Off Feranti Hold Me Tight Kegel Toning Kit - Rocks Off 2
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Feranti Single & Double Kegel Toning Set - Rocks Off

Rocks off
BO MS 7018
R999
The Hold Me Tight kegel toning kit will take you from beginner to toned expert, with a single starter Kegel Exercise ball and a double advanced Kegel Exercise ball. This Rocks Off Feranti set is made of soft-to-the-touch bodysafe silicone with a ridged design to give a pleasurable sensation on insertion and removal. A discreet but strong silicone pull...
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Butch Adjustable Penis Enlargement Sheath - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO DP 840215119384
R1,299
The Oxballs Butch Penis Sheath is an effective penis enhancer that instantly increases both your size and girth. Made from the incredibly super soft Super FlexTPR material, this sleeve is designed to fit like a glove. With it's added texture and super veiny finish, the realistic design moulds to your penis perfectly - giving you an instant boost in girth...
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Boyfriend Hollow Prosthetic Dildo Strap On - Malesation

Malesation
BO ST 4041937315542
R749
The Boyfriend strap-on by Malesation is a prosthetic type strap on that is hollow inside.Allowing you to fit comfortably inside, the Boyfriend provides addition length and girth. With it's realistic looking shaft and textures, this strap on features an adjustable elastic belt harness to keep it comfortably in place. Suitable for waist sizes up to 120cm,...
Homeboy Hollow Vibrating Prosthetic Strap On - Malesation Homeboy Hollow Vibrating Prosthetic Strap On - Malesation 2
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Homeboy Hollow Vibrating Prosthetic Strap On - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315047
R1,399
The Homeboy is a rigid, ribbed prosthetic penis cover that adds plenty to your length and girth for a more filling sensation for your partner. This vibrating strap-on is ideal for men suffering from Erectile Dysfunction (ED). It’s hollow inside, so the penis rests comfortably within the strap-on, held in place by the adjustable straps. Simply slip the...
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ExtasyRing Penis Sheath - Joy Division

JoyDivision
BO DP 4028403156014
R229
The Extasyring by Joy Division is actually a sheath that adds a whole new dimension to sex. With soft nubs around the sheath, the Extasyring stimulates your partner as you thrust. with it's snug fit, the ExtasyRing acts like a cock ring, constricting blood flow in the penis to keep your erection firm and long-lasting. With a harder erection added to the...
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Smooth Ribbed Adjustable Muscle Penis Sheath - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO DP 840215111081/135
R1,299
The Smooth Muscle Penis Sheath by Oxballs is an amazingly flexible and comfortable penis sheath designed to act as a second skin - enhancing your penis length as well as your erection strength.Made from body safe flexible silicone, this penis sheath keeps perfectly in place during penetration thanks to the suction effect. With it's soft TPR ridges on the...
Lidl Extra Penis Sleeve Extension
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Lidl Extra Penis Sheath Extension - Erotic Love Toys

Erotic Love Toys
BO DP 4890888111167
R369
The Lidl Extra Penis Extension sleeve is perfect for those who want to delay ejaculation and provide extra stimulation for their partner. Adding on an an extra 7.6cm's this penis sleeve also add's on extra length to your penis, whilst providing her with additional stimulation at the same time. Covered in textured pleasure beads, this sleeve is perfect for...
Silicone Vibrating Penis Sleeve
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Silicone Vibrating Penis Sheath - 16cm

BO DP 4890888120879
R449
This extra thick, stretchy soft silicone penis sleeve not only adds an inch of thickness to your entire penis, but also features a removable multi speed dial vibrator, which sits on the inside of the sleeve's tip. This combined with the small nodules on the outside of the sleeve provides amazing sensations for both him and her. Use it to stimulate her...
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SkinLike Penis Extending Sheath - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315849/56
R899
This penis extender by Malesation offers a realistic SkinLike texture designed to offer you an increase in length and girth without compromising on feeling and sensation.With it's soft textured surface, realistically designed glans, and a veined shaft, this sleeve is both realistic in feel and design. Made to be customized according to your size and...
RO-Zen Pro 2in1 Penis Ring & Vibrating Anal Plug - Rocks Off RO-Zen Pro 2in1 Penis Ring & Vibrating Anal Plug - Rocks Off 2
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RO-Zen Pro Vibrating Penis Ring & Prostate Massager - Rocks Off

Rocks off
BO DP 811041011401
R1,299
The RO-Zen vibrating Penis Ring and prostate massager is an all in one cock ring, perineum massager, anal plug, and prostate massager! This is the ultimate toy for the man who wants to enjoy prolonged play, delayed ejaculation, an increase in orgasmic strength due to the anal and prostate massage, and an all over multi-sensory orgasmic experience! With a...
Beginner Cock Ring Set - Malesation Beginner Cock Ring Set - Malesation 2
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Beginner Cock Ring Set - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315726
R179
This penis ring set by Malesation is the perfect set if you are new to using penis rings or are unsure of your size.Featuring 3 rings in a pack, from 2.2cm in girth to 3cm, you have the option of trying three different rings until you find your ideal fit. Made from 100% soft silicone, these super stretchy rings allow you to use one at a time or use all...
Power Ring - Malesation Power Ring - Malesation 2
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Power Penis Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315207
R199
Malesation's Power Ring is no ordinary cock ring. Made from the purest phthalate-free body safe silicone, this power ring has been designed specifically for those allergic to various materials and taking sensitivity into account. Due to the softness of the silicone, this cock ring is extremely comfortable and fits snugly around the base of your shaft....
Cock Ring - Malesation Cock Ring - Malesation 2
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Classic Silicone Cock Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315009/16/23
R139
Cock rings extend your enjoyment, make your erection harder and longer, and build up amazing orgasms. So who wouldn’t want to make sure they have a selection of different cock rings in their toy drawer? The basic cock ring from Malesation is a great one to start with. It’s made of soft, bodysafe silicone, and is available in different sizes. The silicone...
Maximus Flexible Penis Ring - Joy Division Maximus Flexible Penis Ring - Joy Division 2
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Maximus Flexible Penis Ring - Joy Division

JoyDivision
BO DP 4028403156113
R199
Maximus Penis ring by Joy Division is the perfect ring for beginners who are looking to prolong foreplay, extend love-making and delay ejaculation. Easy to put on, the Maximus constricts the penis at the base of the shaft to keep you harder for longer. Flexi loops on either side of the cock ring help you to get it on and remove it after use. The flexible...
OxBalls Air Sport Cock Ring - Oxballs OxBalls Air Sport Cock Ring - Oxballs 2
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OxBalls Air Sport Cock Ring - Oxballs

Oxballs
BO DP 840215119575
R479
The OxBalls Air Sport Penis Ring is a super-lightweight stretchable penis and testicle ring, designed for wearers that enjoy the snug fit of a testicle and penis ring, but don't want the weight that goes with it.Made from super-soft, stretchy plus silicone, the OxBall Sport C-Ring is a super sleek and aerodynamic ring that can be worn either at the base...
3 Piece Penis Ring Set - Malesation 3 Piece Penis Ring Set - Malesation 2
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Three Piece Classic Scrotum & Penis Ring Set - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315139
R229
The 3 piece cock ring set by Malesation offers a combination of 4cm, 4.5cm, and 5cm penis rings. Made from soft, hygienic, nonporous, odourless, and durable silicone, these rings have a slight amount of stretch, but fit snuggly when worn at the base of the penis. Designed to restrict blood flow, the penis ring allows for firmer erections and delayed...
Stretchy Penis Rings - Set of 3 - Malesation Stretchy Penis Rings - Set of 3 - Malesation 2
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Stretchy Penis Rings - Set of 3 - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315108
R249
These stretchy penis ring set by Malesation is designed specifically to help you achieve a longer-lasting and stronger erection. With three seperate rings, each featuring a unique design, you can choose from ribbed wtih chunky blocks, groovy waves, or fine ornamentation - all providing you with unique and varied stimulation. Made from phthalate free and...
Spartan Power Penis Ring - Bathmate
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Power Penis Rings in S / M / L - Bathmate

Bathmate
BO DP 5060140200628/11/04
R199
Cock rings and penis pumps go perfectly together, so it’s no surprise that popular penis pump brand Bathmate introduced the Power Rings as a complimentary offer. Used individually on their own as a traditional penis ring, or as a complimentary product to your pump regime, the Bathmate penis rings are superior in their design and functionality. Designed to...
Squeeze Cock and Ball Ring - Malesation Squeeze Cock and Ball Ring - Malesation 2
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Squeeze Vibrating Cock and Ball Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315085
R479
Up the pleasure levels with the Squeeze Cock & Ball Ring from Malesation. This vibrating penis and testicle ring will intensify your erection and orgasm, and prolong your pleasure. The larger ring is 4.5cm diameter and the smaller ring 3.25cm diameter. The Squeeze Cock & Ball Ring is made of flexible medical grade silicone and ABS plastic, and is...
Joy Division VarioRing/Penis Ring Joy Division VarioRing/Penis Ring 2
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Vario Adjustable Penis Ring - Joy Division

JoyDivision
BO DP 4028403153212
R249
The Joy Division VarioRing is a silicone cock ring that has an adjustable closure allowing it to fit perfectly on any size penis. With it's firm fit, this ring allows you to control the tension by constricting blood flow, this cock ring allows for a fuller and stronger erection and assists with erectile dysfunction issues. Enjoy lovemaking that lasts for...
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