SEX ESSENTIALS

Sex Essentials carefully selected to compliment your intimate journey, encourage sound sexual health and wellness, and ensure a more satisfying and rewarding sex life.


Desir’s sex essentials are products that have been introduced with the purpose of making your sexual experience that much more satisfying. From lubes and condoms, to supplements and medically sound intimate care products, our essential category offers you the best complimentary products and must-haves for your sexual health and wellbeing.


What is good sexual health?

Feeling good about your body and taking care of your physical and emotional health are all part of being sexually healthy. Physically this can relate to regular sexual health exams, getting tested for sexually transmitted infections, preventing unwanted pregnancies and having a healthy hygiene regime when it comes to cleaning your sex toys and taking care or your body.


But additionally, your emotional or mental health also has an enormous role to play in your attitude towards sex and your sexual health status. Feeling good about your body, giving yourself permission to enjoy sexual pleasure, and being comfortable with your sexual orientation and gender are huge parts of one’s sexuality and can have a fundamental impact on how you perceive yourself, others, and your sexuality.


How do I have good sex?

Planned parenthood states that good sex comes from understanding how your body works. Whilst sex is not a one size fits all experience, good sex comes down to being confident with your body, knowing what you like and don’t like, and understanding your sex drive and pleasures.


It is in this regard that Desir’s range of Essentials have been carefully curated to ensure that you have the best sex possible, whilst taking care of your sexual health and wellness at the same time.


Sexual Health Supplements

With so many factors impacting our sex lives, one of the biggest contributors is that of low libido or poor sex drive. Science has come a considerably long way in providing formulations that not only increase your sexual libido, but also assist with symptoms related to menopause, erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, and stamina.


Brands like Solal have focussed specifically on formulations, vitamins and minerals that contain essential ingredients like vitamin b12, vitamin b6, ginseng, fenugreek, and maca root that are natural testosterone boosting herbs. Not only proven to increase your libido, these ingredients are specifically known to alleviate symptoms related to erectile dysfunction, poor sperm quality, infertility, and are known to positively support and boost male and female sexual function. A completely natural alternative to anabolic and pharmaceutical steroid medicines, brands like Solal, LaMelle, Vitaforce, and Erex provide you with the option of adopting a far more holistic approach to your sexual health.


Stimulants and Enhancers

When it comes to stimulation and increasing your arousal and genital blood flow, several brands like Shunga, Wicked, Intimate Earth, and Pjur focus specifically on products designed to intensify your sexual experience.


From clitoral arousal serums and pleasure gels to aphrodisiacs and prolong sprays, Desir has a range of complimentary serums and elixirs that have been proven to amplify your sexual experience. Use them in conjunction with your favourite intimate product or simply for an increase in your masturbation or solo play


Explore the sensory experience of applying serums that encourage warmth, cooling, tingling, and relaxation and stimulate your nerve endings to encourage stronger orgasms and a heightened sense of arousal.


Personal Care and Product Care

One of the most important aspects to sound sexual health, is that of good personal and product care.

With conditions like bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, vaginal infections, and STD’s, it is critical to follow a health regime that supports your sexual lifestyle. From intimate toy cleaners and disinfectant wipes, to vaginal douches and condoms, Desir has ensured that you have all you need to practice safe sex and avoid cross-contamination.


WebMd lists the use of a good intimate wash as the number one priority after sex. Not only limited to the cleansing of your genital areas, cleansing of your sex toys is just as important and with the introduction of foam or gel sex toy cleaners, taking care of your sex toys has never been easier.


With much controversy around the practice of douching and specifically with regards to women who douche, douching before or after anal sex (also referred to as rectal douching) is widely practiced to clean the anal area in preparation for sex.


With a variety of douches that range from shower attachment to bulb hand held douching apparatus, douching is best practiced with warm water and should be repeated until the water runs clean. EndHIV provides a word of caution for douching too frequently stating that it can damage the lining of the rectum, making you more susceptible to to HIV infection should you choose to not use a male condom.


Desir Panel of Medical Experts

To encourage positive sexual health and wellness, Desir has introduced a medical panel of experts that specialise in sexual health and promote sexual health and wellness - for both men and women. From gynaecologists and aesthetic practitioners, to sexologists and psychotherapists, Desir’s sexual health doctors are available for consult via our treatments category. With a variety of procedures, consults, and services available, your mental and physical sexual health is of the utmost importance to us and we are proud to offer you access to some of South Africa’s most renowned doctors who specialise in their respective fields.

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Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation 2
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Sex Toys

Bunny Cock Ring - Malesation

Malesation
BO DP 4041937315719
R189
This versatile penis ring by Malesation is a double banded ring featuring a 'rabbit ear' head that promises dual satisfaction for both partners. With it's super-stretchy, body-safe silicone design, this cock ring is a soft, odourless, non-porous ring that is both easy to clean and fully waterproof. Designed to provide longer-lasting pleasure for him as...
OhNut Rings (Set of 4)  -... OhNut Rings (Set of 4)  -... 2
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Sex Toys

OhNut Rings (Set of 4) - OhNut

OhNut
BO DP 860000250405
R1,199
The OhNut rings are soft, BPA, phthalate, and latex free body safe wearable rings that are designed to alleviate discomfort during sex by offering a customizable solution to the penetration depth.  Designed by renowned clinicians, each ring features a soft, compressible buffer that allows these rings to be used separately or together to vary the...
Intimacy Bath Salts with... Intimacy Bath Salts with... 2
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Sex Essentials

Intimacy Bath Salts with CBD & Cacao - Foria

Foria
Foria Bath Salts
R1,299
The Foria Intimacy Bath Salts is a multi-botanical bath soak formulated to seduce the body and mind and is inspired by the sensual ritual of bathing. Mineral rich, this bath salt formulation combines epsom salts, himalayan salts and infusions of organically grown kava, cacao, rose and hemp cbd. Delivering a symphony of botanicals to awaken your senses,...
Senze Massage Candle Senze Massage Candle  2
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Massage Candles

Luxury Massage Aphrodisiac Candle - Senze

Swede
BO DP 7350028783205/29/36
R549
Senze’s erotic massage candle is perfect for gentle foreplay. The candle burns at a low heat, creating a warm, buttery, scented oil that moisturizes the skin as you massage. Just a few minutes of burning will create enough oil for a basic massage. Give it a little longer to have enough oil for a full-body sensual massage that your partner will love....
Elite Velvet Touch Silicone... Elite Velvet Touch Silicone... 2
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Lubricants

Elite Velvet Touch Silicone Glide and Massage - Intimate Earth

Intimate Earth
BO MS 049IE
R649
Velvety smooth, Elite Velvet Touch Silicone Glide and Massage by Intimate Earth is a premium all in one massage and silicone personal glide.  Highest grade silicone is infused with natural Shiitake extracts and Vitamin E for the softest nourishing glide. Pure vegan and paraben free, with absolutely no taste or smell. This unique Intimate Earth product...
Premium Silicone Based... Premium Silicone Based... 2
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Lubricants

Premium Silicone Based Lubricant - Promescent

Promescent
P PromSilicone
R379
The Promescent Premium Silicone based lubricant is ideal for longer lasting sex, masturbation or water play. With a thicker viscosity than that of a water-based lubricant, Promescent silicone lube is long-lasting, odourless, colourless, and paraben-free. Designed to reduce friction and increase your overall comfort during intercourse or masturbation,...
Pjur MED Sensitive Glide - Pjur
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Lubricants

Pjur MED Sensitive Glide - Pjur

Pjur
BO DP 827160111137
R499
The Pjur MED Sensitive Glide is a lubricant formulated free of glycerins, parabens, and preservatives and is ideal for more sensitive users.With it's neutral formulation, Pjur MED Sensitive glide has been formulated specifically with very sensitive genital mucous membranes in mind. With it's pureistic formula, this lube has been made as neutral as...
Defense Protection Glide & Lubricant - Intimate Earth
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Lubricants

Defense Water-Based Lubricant with Tea Tree - Intimate Earth

Intimate Earth
BO MS 033IE
R449
The Defense Protection Glide and Lubricant by Intimate Earth is an exciting breakthrough in lubricants.Containing strong anti-yeast and HPV protection agents such as Caarrageean (sea kelp) and Guava bark anti-bacterial extract, this lubricant inhibits the infectious ability of viruses that cause cervical cancer and genital warts and assist in preventing...
Le'Lube Dermo Sensitive... Le'Lube Dermo Sensitive... 2
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Lubricants

Le'Lube Dermo Sensitive Water-Based Lubricant with Aloe Vera - Le'Lube

Con LL LeLube
R99
Le'Lube is a unique silky water-based lubricant for both intimate pleasure or massage.  Le'Lube is specifically PH balanced with a low osmolality of 765 mOsm/kg. The World Health Organisation recommends that one use a lubricant with an osmolality of below 1200 mOsm/kg. Le'Lube thereby maintains the body's natural homeostasis. Le'Lube has been tested and...
Oske Water Based Lubricant - Oske Oske Water Based Lubricant - Oske 2
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Lubricants

Oske Water Based Lubricant - Oske

CON OSKE 101
R189
This gorgeous OSKE Lubricant is a gentle water based lube that has been specifically created for women.Manufactured in a pharmaceutical facility and developed to compliment the female physiology, this 96% organic lube is free from fragrance, alcohol, and sugar, and is packed with natural preservatives. Containing aloe vera, xanthan gum, citric acid, and...
KY Lubricating Jelly - Durex KY Lubricating Jelly - Durex 2
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Lubricants

KY Lubricating Jelly - Durex

Durex
SM 110112
R119
This lubricating jelly by Durex is a personal lubricant formulated to replicate the body's natural moisture levels. Water-soluble, this water-based lube is safe to use with all condoms and intimate products. Protecting against discomfort and gynaecologically tested, this lube quickly prepares you for intimacy and eases discomfort that is caused by...
Play 2in1 Massage Gel - Durex Play 2in1 Massage Gel - Durex 2
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Lubricants

Play 2in1 Massage Gel - Durex

Durex
SM 10048803/4/5
R159
Durex Play 2in1 Massage Gel contains a blend of natural aromatherapeutic ingredients and is designed to be used as an all over body massage glide or a stimulating lubricant for either him or her. With it's soft, smooth and silky consistency, this water based lubricant is perfect for adding moisture to your intimate areas and leaving your skin feeling...
Ultre Fragrance Free Silicone Based Intimate Lubricant - Wicked
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Lubricants

Ultra Fragrance Free Silicone Based Intimate Lubricant (60ml, 120ml)- Wicked

Wicked
CJ 133168/9
R279
Ultra Silicone Lubricant by Wicked is luxuriously sensuous and long lasting. This high performance, velvety smooth formula will enhance pleasure without feeling heavy, greasy or tacky. Formulated with the highest quality silicone available in the personal care market. Ultra Fragrance Free contains no additives or fillers for an exceptionally silky feel....
Aqua Fragrance Free Water Based Intimate Lubricant - Wicked
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Lubricants

Aqua Fragrance Free Water Based Intimate Lubricant (60ml, 120ml, 250ml) - Wicked

Wicked
CJ 133182
R179
This water-based lubricant by Wicked, is a completely safe, fragrance-free, preservative free lubricant designed for the more sensitive skin.  Perfect for every day lubricant for women who suffer from dryness, for use with your intimate products and for both vaginal and anal sex, this non-sticky, hydrating formulation leaves your skin feeling silk...
Water-Based Flavoured... Water-Based Flavoured... 2
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Lubricants

Water-Based Flavoured Lubricant - Wicked

Wicked
CJ 133173
R229
A leading brand in lubricants, Wicked has introduced a product that will allow your sexual adventures to involve all of the five senses, allowing you to reach your most intimate desires. Each flavour is available in 60ml, are long-lasting, non-sticky, paraben-free, and latex friendly so can be enjoyed safely, also making this ideal with vegans. The...
Dragon Fire & Ice Virility Prolong & Enhancing Cream -  Shunga Dragon Fire & Ice Virility Prolong & Enhancing Cream -  Shunga 2
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Sex Essentials

Dragon Fire & Ice Virility Prolong & Enhancing Cream - Shunga

Shunga
BO DP 97309052009
R899
All-natural ingredients provide intense sensation in Shunga's Dragon Virility Cream. The 'fire and ice' sensation enhances the erection and lightly desensitizes, so he can enjoy longer lovemaking. During sex, the sensations stimulate the vagina and G-spot, intensifying orgasms for her. Dragon Virility Cream makes sex more intense and fulfilling for both...
Clinica Water-based Lubricating Jelly - Clinica
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Lubricants

Clinica Water-based Lubricating Jelly - Clinica

Clinica
720537
R79
The Clinica Water-based and condom-safe lubricant is a universal sterile lubricant originally designed for gynaecological examinations and general medical procedures. With it's puristic and 100% body-safe formulae, this lubricant is ideal for intimate use and contains no harmful or synthetic products.With active ingredients in the form of herbal extracts,...
Cannabis Unisex Pleasure Oil - Oh! Holy Mary
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Sex Essentials

Cannabis Unisex Pleasure Oil (6ml) - Oh! Holy Mary

HM HolMarOil 200120
R629
The Cannabis Pleasure oil by Spanish brand Oh! Holy Mary is a potent formulae designed to stimulate either his glans or her clitoris, increasing both your level of sensation as well as amplifying your orgasm.  With it's unique formulae containing the Cannabis Sativa Seed this oil - unlike traditional stimulants - does not produce a cooling or...
Pjur SuperHero Performance Spray for Men
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Sex Essentials

Pjur SuperHero Performance Spray for Men - Pjur

Pjur
BO D 827160113544
R499
Pjur SuperHero Performance spray for men is perfect for those wanting to prolong their sexual enjoyment and assist with the common side effects of erectile dysfunction. The unique formula and ingredients slightly desensitize the penis and ensure longer enjoyment and prevent premature ejaculation. It enhances smoothness, reduces oversensitivity and is one...
We Vibe Lubricant - Pjur We Vibe Lubricant - Pjur 2
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Lubricants

Pjur We-Vibe Water-Based Lubricant - Pjur

We Vibe
BO DP 827160111434
R449
Formulated especially for We-Vibe, the We-Vibe™ Lube made by Pjur® is perfect for use with all your We-Vibe and other luxury adult toys. The water-based lubricant formula is gentle on your skin and avoids corrosion of the soft luxury silicone found on your We-Vibe adult products. It's rich formulae is long-lasting, non-sticky and mess...
Pjur Med Soft Silicone Glide - Pjur Med
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Lubricants

Pjur MED Soft Silicone Glide & Lubricant for Sensitive Skin - Pjur Med

Pjur
BO DP 827160111151
R579
Pjur Med Soft Glide is a silicone lubricant designed for very dry and sensitive intimate areas. With a highly concentrated formulae, this high grade silicone has been enriched with jojoba oil, and provides excellent lubrication and long-lasting moisture. Leaving your skin feeling supple and enriched, Pjur Med Soft Glide also enhances skin flexibility and...
Pjur Med Natural Glide|100ml - Pjur
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Lubricants

Pjur MED Water-Based Natural Glide & Lubricant - PjurMed

Pjur
BO DP 827160105815
R449
The Natural glide by Pjur is a water-based lubricant designed specifically for dry skin. With it's natural and nature-based formulation of pure vegetable glycerin, this lube provides additional moisture and long-lasting lubrication. Protecting and soothing the skin, this lube is especially suitable for sensitive skin and is idea for daily use. Apply a...
COOL - Pjur
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Lubricants

Pjur Cool Menthol Water-Based Lubricant - Pjur

Pjur
BO DP 827160110154
R499
Pjur's Cool waterbased lubricant creates a gentle stimulating & tingling sensation, coupled with the cool freshness of menthol - enhancing your sexual pleasure and adding to more intense orgasms. This lube is, like all Pjur lubricants, specially formulated to be kind to your skin and to provide long-lasting lubrication for extended sexual pleasure. With...
Pjur Light BodyGlide - Pjur
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Lubricants

Pjur Light Silicone BodyGlide & Lubricant - Pjur

Pjur
BO DP 827160100933
R429
Pjur Light bodyglide combines all of the positive elements of the original Pjur silicone bodyglide, but allows a noticeably thinner silicone formula, allowing you to use this excellent long-lasting product as a personal, toy, and body-glide massaging lubricant. Spreading further and lasting longer than the original body glide, this odorless and tasteless...
Pjur Aqua Water-based Lubricant - Pjur Pjur Aqua Water-based Lubricant - Pjur 2
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Lubricants

Pjur Aqua Water-based Lubricant - Pjur

Pjur
BO DP 827160100278/61/85
R179
Pjur Aqua water-based lubricant is made from the highest quality ingredients and absorbs into the skin, leaving it feeling soft and silky. It adds extra lubrication for both masturbation and love-making, and is also suitable for use with all adult toys. Pjur Aqua water based is 100% latex condom safe, non-toxic, allergy tested, tasteless, odourless,...
Aqua Sensitive Intimate Lubricant - Wicked
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Water Based Lubricants

Aqua Sensitive Water-Based Intimate Lubricant for Sensitive Skin - Wicked

Wicked
CJ 133165
R299
This water based lubricant by Wicked is a smooth and satiny, hypoallergenic lubricant rich in aloe, vitamin E, and Olive extracts. Ideal for sensitive skin, this lubricant not only heightens sensation and arousal, but also nourishes and moisturises the most sensitive of skins. With it's non sticky application, this lube is latex friendly and...
Hydra Glycerin-Free Water-Based Natural Glide & Lubricant - Intimate Earth Hydra Glycerin-Free Water-Based Natural Glide & Lubricant - Intimate Earth 2
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Lubricants

Hydra Natural Water-Based Lubricant - Intimate Earth

Intimate Earth
BO MS 007/120IE 007/60IE
R249
Smooth and silky, Hydra Natural Glide is a paraben- and glycerin-free water-based lubricant. It’s tasteless and odourless, making it your natural choice for use during foreplay and lovemaking. With natural plant extracts of aloe and goji berry, Hydra Natural Glide is vegan-friendly and 100% bodysafe. It’s perfect for use with your silicone sex toys, and...
MELT Organic Warming Water-Based Lubricant for Sensitive Skin - Intimate Earth
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Lubricants

MELT Organic Warming Water-Based Lubricant for Sensitive Skin - Intimate Earth

Intimate Earth
BO MS 032IE
R379
MELT is a warming lubricant brought to you by Intimate Organics. Containing cinnamomum zeylancium bark, for added stimulation, it is Paraben free, menthol free, DEA free, and is plant derived and is pure vegan. This is a perfect product for those with sensitive skin. The gentle formula is silky and natural to the touch, and a little will go a long way. It...
Embrace Tightening Pleasure Serum - Intimate Earth
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Sex Essentials

Embrace Tightening Pleasure Serum - Intimate Earth

Intimate Earth
BO MS 002IE
R549
The muscles of your vagina need to be exercised to stay strong and feel ‘tight’, but sometimes life intervenes. Post-pregnancy, or during menopause, Embrace Tightening Pleasure Serum provides a temporary solution. This gentle, organic serum does not dry out the vagina, but causes the muscles to contract, creating a feeling of tightness. It contains...
Aquaglide Water-Based Lubricant - Joy Division
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Lubricants

Aquaglide Water-Based Lubricant - Joy Division

JoyDivision
BO DP 4028403117046/022
R149
Aquaglide from Joy Division is a pH-optimised, highly effective, water-based lubricant that features long-lasting lubricating properties. This product assists in increase sensation and excitement to love-making, but is also the ideal to use with latex condoms or your pleasure objects. It is so versatile that it can also be used as a massage gel! It is...
Performa Stamina Enhancing Condoms - Durex
Product available with different options
Sex Essentials

Performa Stamina Enhancing Condoms (3's,12's) - Durex

Durex
SM 10027899/10032356
R59
Durex Performa condoms are designed to prolong intercourse and delay ejaculation without removing sensitivity and feeling. Containing a special lubricant – called Benzocaine – inside the condom which helps the man to delay climax and prolong excitement, you are able to enjoy longer-lasting pleasure. With their body-contoured shape and...
Durex Pleasuremax Ribbed and Dotted Condoms - 3 Pack
Product available with different options
Sex Essentials

PleasureMe Ribbed and Dotted Condoms (3's,12's) - Durex

Durex
SM 3042300/3023661
R59
The Durex PleasureMe condoms feature uniquely positioned ribs and dots designed to enhance stimulation for both you and your partner. Transparent and lubricated, these natural rubber latex condoms feature a teat end and are engineered for an easy on fit, comfort, and shape. With a width of 56mm, these condoms are to be used one per application and are...
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